2 year old horrendous with other children!

[Ingsy457]

Hi, my DD is 2 1/2, and VERY strong willed. Her behaviour has improved a lot, but any situation which involves sharing/queuing/waiting results in me restraining a SCREAMING and lashing out toddler. How can I teach her to be patient and wait for her turn? And if it's her turn, (like this morning - going on a swing) and another child's waiting, she will clamp her hands on the swing with the strength of the hulk. She goes to nursery once a week (originally to help with behaviour like this - which it has done to a degree), I have tried all sorts, nothing helps when she is in the moment. Help! Any new ideas?! It's so awful seeing her get upset when she could be having fun and the looks I get are tough to take even for someone with my thick skin! Her brother was never like this!!

[NessaWH123]

i have no real advise but just want to say I have a little boy similar age and behaviour so you are not alone...if that helps! im just hoping in time his age will help improve things, it cant go on forever. I just keep removing him from the situation if it gets to bad and TRY to remain with a calm voice... x

[Arseface]

One of my twins is just like this too. So wearing. Distraction is always good. I try not to focus on the sharing/turn taking that he struggles with, it's on to the next new thing instead.
'Wow look at that climbing frame and slide. Bet you can get to the top really fast, let's go!'
Instead of, 'Right off the swing it's someone else's turn.'
When he does share or wait his turn I praise massively.
They'll get there and if people are being judgey about a toddler it really is their problem, not yours and your lovely daughter's!

[Ingsy457]

Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not alone! I'm hoping it just means she will grow into a strong independent woman lol! Exhausting though. I hate dreading doing anything new that might overwhelm her. Fingers crossed they all improve with age! X