twins banging and now getting complaints

[vickyp1989]

Hey everyone im new here
Im haveing problems with my twins they are two years old and every night after bed time they get out of there bed and start banging on the door or walls and it gets louder and louder its getting so bad now we getting complaints from our naighbors and i have tryed everything from other websites, tryed soothing them with rythmic music singing stroys giveing them loads of attention and iv run out of ideas has anyone elce had this problem and if so how did you solve it im just scaird my naighbour will complain to my landlord and it gets worse

[MyArksNotReady]

Can you move the twins to a room with non party wall?

[vickyp1989]

All the walls in the house are plasterbord and the only other room we have will put them against the naighbour whos complaining

[MyArksNotReady]

Can you ask your landlord to change the plaster board to the soundproofing type?

[vickyp1989]

I will ask but i dont think they will they dont like spending

[LaurieFairyCake]

What's your bedtime routine with them like?

It might be good to do supper, bath, bedtime stories over a longer period so they are gradually wound down and ready for sleep? What time do they go to bed now?

[PotteringAlong]

Put the bed in the middle of the room so it's not against a wall?

[vickyp1989]

Getting them to bed takes about a hour n half after supper bath quiet time with cuddles and story start 6pm

N the beds in the middle of the room wont do much good they jump out of the bed and we keep going up putting them back in it without saying anything as so many websites tell us to

[Artandco]

I wouldn't be leaving them in room until they are asleep tbh. And leave the door open, mine would hate being completely closed in a room trying to get out.

I would stay in the room with them until they are asleep. Sit on a chair or end of end bed and read a few stories in dim light whilst they get tired or fall asleep. Then sit and wait until they are asleep, returning any child that gets out of bed

[bonzo77]

Put them back into cots till they are old enough to understand they cannot do this?

[LaurieFairyCake]

Agree with staying in the room with them til they're dropping off - this is about 7.30 ish?

[Artandco]

Bed at 6pm might just be too early no? Especially if it's taking that long, I would start bedtime at 7.30/8pm with the view of it taking just 20-30mins

[Warandpeace]

I'm not sure how to do links but have you seen the foam things you can buy which are U shaped and stop doors from slamming? Would that at least stop the noise so you don't upset the neighbours?

www.amazon.co.uk/Kids-Finger-Guard-Anti-Slam-Wedge/dp/B006O0HEWM?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

Don't know if that link will work sorry!

Also do your twins have a nap in the day? I dropped nap and found my ds was tireder at bedtime so went to bed better

[vickyp1989]

Will try staying in the room with them and will get a safty gate so if they get up at night they dont fall down the stairs

The reason we took them out of cots was they were climbing out and was worryed they might fall out so got them little beds

[bloodyteenagers]

Yes try a later bedtime. The routine shouldn't really take that amount of time.
Is thee any reason why it's 6pm?

[KatharineClifton]

At that age mine used to go up for a bath at 6, then the whole process took about an hour I think - reading a story etc. I was quite strict though, and if they got out of bed I put them back in and just said bed. I did spend quite a while at first sitting outside door so I could put either/both back into bed.

[vickyp1989]

They got a older sister who needs to be in bed cos she has school and the twins keep her awake but will try holding them off plus the rare time were they have gone past 6 they get realy grumpy around 7 so will try keeping them up later with no day time nap

[Artandco]

What the doses elder child go to bed? My 5 year old goes at 9pm also, wakes 7.30am for school but could sleep until 8.15am if really tired

[vickyp1989]

Normaly its about 9 for her cos when the twins have gone quiet she will have a story and bath

[addictedtosugar]

OK, if they have been climbing out out the cot, going back in there is not an option.

Have you just dropped a nap? Are they overtired?? If not, I'd try either no nap, or a later bedtime - but not both at the same time.

I think I'd be really tough. "No, you need to stay in bed quietly" and put them back in. I've never told mine they need to sleep, just stay in bed quietly - ie something they can control rather than going to sleep which they can't control.

Have you got a partner who can either do twins bedtime, or stay down with your oldest for a few nights til the Twins get the idea?

[ragged]

I wouldn't leave that room until they conked out, sorry. Silence & darkness & staying in bed.

[feesh]

My twins were mucking about at nap time, and I've found a mix of threats and bribes has worked well. The threat was that their cot gets dragged into the spare room if they make a noise (which I have carried out on 3 occasions) - once they are separated it calms them down a lot. The bribe is a bunch of stickers in the morning if they stay quiet until they fall asleep.

The trouble with twins is they wind each other up, which is why it is so hard to have calm bedtimes!

We have also just (literally only yesterday) bought a Gro Clock which seems to have had a magical effect on them. When the sleeping stars are out, I've told them they have to be very quiet so they don't wake the stars up. And it's worked! I can't believe it!