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Is my 9 yr old dd is depressed?

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dropscone · 01/11/2006 11:26

I don't know what to do to help my just turned 9 yr old dd. To put you in the picture, she has never had the easiest time at school - good academically but finds the social side difficult - she has friends but no bf, and it seems to be that she isn't interested in the people that are interested in her. We,ve had the usual tears about fall outs etc , but in a few days things go back to normal and she manages.

But she was at a sleepover party on saturday and the mum called me afterwards to say she was very concerned that my ds was very unhappy and 'melancholy' all the time - didn't think there had been any fall-outs and thought i should know.

Thinking back she has been a bit quiet recently but a sleepover party is the sort of thing that ususally my ds would love so I am v. concerned.

have spoken to her and don't think there is anything going on at school (usually she would tell me). She says she doesn't want to grow up, doesn't want to be in double figures, can't get to sleep at night because she is worrying about (and crying about) me or her dad dying or one of her grandmas, who she is very close to dying.

I can understand these late night blues - I can remember feeling similar as a child, although at 12 or 13 - what troubles me most is this carrying it through to affect daily life

has anyone any suggestions about tackling this ?

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mousiemousie · 01/11/2006 11:28

Maybe spend more 1 to 1 time with her letting her do her fave things?

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sunnysideup · 01/11/2006 12:33

sorry, no sage advice as don't have experience of this situation but I just wanted to say that she does sound a very sensitive, thoughtful and intelligent girl, all things that will do her proud in life.

Maybe all children who are this thoughtful have this sort of time sometime in their childhood? Childhood is not all fun, it is a time when children think about and wrestle with the great truths of life and it can be scary. Just keep talking to her and giving her the chance to talk to you and I'm sure you can't go far wrong.

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dropscone · 01/11/2006 18:55

thanks - I think we forget how hard it is to grow up - maybe she's starting to get some of those pubescent hormones running about ? She is tall for her age and quite sturdy,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

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