Hi, my ds2 is 8. He has always been the most challenging of my 4 children behaviour wise, his tantrums persisted well past toddlerhood and he has always had a volatile temper. He pushes boundaries, questions rules, hates losing and can be rude and aggressive, particularly towards us and his older brother. He is also loving, helpful and loves positive attention. His behaviour has been a pain at times but usually manageable, particularly if DH and I have stuck to consistent 'positive parenting' techniques rather than backing him into a corner (not literally) with punishment/time out etc. We do have family rules, agreed by all of us, and are very clear about our expectations and any consequences of not following the family rules. DH is more inclined to have fixed consequences so we also use a 'yellow card' system which results in loss of screen time if 3 yellow cards are given.
However, over the past 2-3 months his negative behaviour has been escalating, and, particularly over the last 2-3 weeks, it seems to be totally out of control. Dealing with and/or trying to prevent his aggressive and antagonistic behaviour is hugely dominating family life at the moment, which isn't fair on the others, and I feel like the moments of 'good' behaviour are few and far between. Oddly he hasn't, so far, shown any signs of misbehaving at school. I waver between thinking that he must be really unhappy about something and that is making him behave like this, to worrying that there may be more to it (ADHD maybe? Or something else?). And at other times I think that we're dealing with it badly and that is making things worse. It's really upsetting me and I don't really know what to do next. Any advice or experience on how to deal with it would be very gratefully received. Sorry for such a mammoth post.
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pinkpip100 · 04/03/2015 12:51
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