Hi! I have a lovely 4yo ds who is generally good, kind and lovely etc but he does know how to push my buttons and morning dressing is an issue currently. He is at school so we have a definite time issue in the morning- he sees me getting ds2 dressed and wants me yo dress him too. He is WELL able to dress himself but just won't- often ending in tears (mostly his, although I've been close, tears of rage on my part though!!) and ridiculously, to get us out the door on time I often end up dressing him, while hating my inconsistent parenting and berating him for acting like a baby!
I know, when the red mist descends, I need to step back, and walk away, but leaving him makes no difference- he just won't do it. I have made threats, tried bribes, reasoned with him etc but he knows when it comes down to it I will capitulate, because I have to!
I am currently drawing up a reward chart as he us generally responsive to those, although we currently have (a very successful) one on the go at the moment for his reading so I'm not too sure that he will be able to focus on 2 separate charts.
I'm desperate thoufh. It's starting the day on the wrong foot, then I stop him off, I feel guilty for getting cross.... Etc. Any suggestions short of sending him to school in his PJs? I dont think I'm quite desperate enough for that ... yet ....!!
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4 year old won't get dressed!
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AppleSnapple · 27/01/2015 13:46
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