I have a toddler and I'm finding myself raising my voice more often as it seems to be the only way he will listen to me sometimes. Our conversations often go like this
-ds bangs hard toy on glass door
-me "ds please don't bang that toy on the door because the door is glass and it will break if you bang it, come and look at this book with mummy"
-ds continues to bang the door and days "no mummy!"
-me "ds, do NOT bang the door!"
-ds continues to bang the door
-me "MUMMY SAID DO NOT BANG THE DOOR IT WILL BREAK!!"
I have a newborn (who wants to breastfeed constantly) so it's not always possible to be right there with a super fun distraction every time, although I do use distraction/calmly physically removing him from the situation when possible.
My mum was very shouty and we were also smacked (not excessively, no more than most of my friends) so I'm not sure of what is a normal level of voice raising. I don't and wouldn't smack my dc and I don't say mean things to them I just say what I have said nicely and calmly (and been ignored) loudly. I praise good behavior and ds really is quite a well behaved toddler but it's like he thinks he knows better and I'm just spoiling his fun by telling him not to do dangerous things.
I'm feeling like I'm a pretty crap parent at the moment, I think I was a pretty good parent when I had one dc but now I have 2 I'm worried that my shouting/voice raising is damaging ds but I'm at a loss as to how to change things.
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How much parental shouting is normal?
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Stripylikeatiger · 20/12/2014 12:51
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