Any advice at all, especially if you have gone through this dilemma, and I would be grateful.
I have a lovely, kind DD age 9. We moved to the States three years ago and she is now 'failing' her grade at school.
DD is a really nice girl. Her teachers have always said she is a joy to have in the class as she is so 'good'. But they also say she is really daydreamy and can't seem to keep focused on work. Increasingly, the pace of maths especially is speeding up, and she just can't seem to cope - even with 'extra support' at school and me trying to help her too.
Homework is especially a nightmare. She is incredibly distractible. Her younger brother can be a scamp about homework, but he grasps ideas pretty fast and gets stuff done. My DD can't seem to finish things, is very 'foggy' about understanding things. We sometimes both end up either frustrated or in tears. It's as if she doesn't have the energy to even try.
She is a bit of a space cadet - forgetful, and frequently seems behind in conversations. Because she is sweet, she is well liked, but I've noticed that she can't keep up with the 'banter' of her friends and is often silent. (I am a guide leader at her pack, so have seen this. I've never mentioned it to her though)
Because of the problems at school, I went to the GP for a educational referral (the school said this was the best way of accessing help). She has now been diagnosed with ADD - the attention deficit only.
They are recommending Concerta - saying she would be much more alert and that the 'fog' that seems to surround her would lift. Of course, we talked about side effects and these freaked me out.
I truly can't decide whether I should just throw everything in to having her tutored, say, and really trying to work with the school - or do that plan and also begin her on medication.
I don't really know what to do - I always found schoolwork easy, (like my son) and I suck as a teacher, so guiding her through homework is leading to stress for both of us.
I don't want a perfect child, but at the same time, sometimes the 'fogginess' of her behaviour and her blankness can be hard to cope with.
If you have any experience of this, I'd really appreciate your advice/story.
Thank you.
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SnowSpot · 14/12/2014 21:06
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