I am a parent of 3 children. My oh spends very little time with me & the kids due to work, golf & pub. So I do everything for the kids & around the house. He constantly undermines my parenting in front of the younger 2. Here's an example.
My 6 year old daughter asked me to buy her a book full of 1000 stickers, I refused to buy it as it was a waste of money but offered to buy her a mag instead, to which she agreed & was happy with. The following morning the oh took her to her gymnastics class (the only thing he does). She came back with the said sticker book. I asked why she had asked daddy for it when I said she couldn't, he jumped in & gave me a barrage of abusive about it being ok for me to buy her things then left for his all day golf game. I texted & asked him if he was going to take her to the party she was going to later, to which he replied, no! I then pointed out that he was very good at undermining me but not very good at doing things for her! To that I got called lazy, jealous & horrible. Later that night my daughter was in the playroom playing, I told her that she must tidy up after herself when she's finished, all fine. Half way through tidying up dad came home so she stopped tidying & went to something else in another room. I asked her to finish tidying, her reply was to scream at me & say no I'm not doing it. I tried to reason with her but she was just screaming at me so I picked her up with her arm & dragged her to the playroom & gave her to the count of 5 to tidy up or she would go to bed! She continued to scream at me so I put her to bed! My oh starting screaming at me calling me a bully & I said this is a result of him undermining me! A mass row erupted until I left the house! I can't get him to understand that what he is doing is wrong and is infact damaging the children? My lo now says that she wishes I wasn't here! Am I so wrong?
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My partner undermines me? Am I wrong?
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Margs3 · 17/11/2014 17:58
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