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DH not around in the day to be with ds when he uses the toilet: how do you teach a boy to pee standing up?

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 05/10/2006 22:05

I mean, is there foreskin etiquette? Shake or dab? The leaning issue? How have you done it?

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 05/10/2006 22:08

Also, he is weirdly giggly when holding (I mean, finger-and-thumb like it's a cube of sugar in silver tongs) his penis. He seems to think it's something weird - has never been a fiddler.
It seems odd to be writing this but does one encourage one's sons to fiddle more so they don't grow up weird??

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NotQuiteCockney · 05/10/2006 22:08

I encourage them to pee sitting down at first.

I've heard you can put a ping pong ball in the toilet for them to aim at. But I don't entirely see the point of peeing standing up at home, anyway ...

NotQuiteCockney · 05/10/2006 22:09

Oh, Pruni, I had an ex who only worked out how to fiddle, so to speak, in his late teens. He was a bit odd, but I don't think the absence of fiddling was the cause so much as the effect ...

charlieandlola · 05/10/2006 22:09

Ping Pong balls enocourage aiming skills. Then a little shake and a dab with loo paper. I had to do this as dh is away more than he is here.

Pruhoohooohoooooni · 05/10/2006 22:09

Ah but he is interested (since FIL did a pee in a field during a picnic) and tbh anything that gets him interested in being nappy-free is good.

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NotQuiteCockney · 05/10/2006 22:11

I don't think they peel back the foreskin to pee. My DS1 shakes, and leans (often doesn't put the seat up either ).

northstar · 05/10/2006 22:11

Omg I will never forget ds doing his standing up wee, I told him he had to hold it and point it but you know it's alot harder than it sounds at 3.5!
After loads of failed attempts I decided to try and show him how to hold it - talk about the blind leading the blind!
It HAS to be a man that shows him, women just cant and thats that I think. Well I cant anyway. Sorry just re-read that and it's so bloody unhelpful.
The only thing I can suggest is to put a ping pong ball in the toilet and get him to aim for it, but get it out before poo time!

frogs · 05/10/2006 22:14

Sitting down is less messy for domestic purposes. Ds still sits down at home and he's 7. Your ds will not be traumatised for life if you don't let him practise his aim on your bathroom floor. You can always teach him to pee standing up when he gets caught short outdoors, or he'll pick it up from his mates at nursery. It's not brain surgery.

Gobbledispook · 05/10/2006 22:17

I didn't teach any of mine - they copy the other children at nursery. Until then, I just let them sit down.

NotQuiteCockney · 05/10/2006 22:19

Ahem, Pruni says he's interested in peeing standing up, and she wants to encourage him to get him out of nappies.

Thinking about it, I'd try to get him to practice somewhere where mistakes are ok ... outdoors, before it gets too cold?

iota · 05/10/2006 22:19

ds2 picked it up from nursery - ds1 then decided to copy him

BTW ds2 doesn't hold it ( don't know what ds1 does he likes to be private)

NastyNemo666 · 05/10/2006 22:25

Ds[3] either holds it between finger and thumb and aims or if he is feeling really lazy he will just rest it on the rim of the loo. He stood up out of his own choice and at the time I was cursing him but now see it must be easier for him. Only sits down if doing the other at the same time.
He gives a little shake when finished but doesnt use loo paper.

bananaloaf · 05/10/2006 22:37

to encourage them put a ping pong ball in the loo and makes it fun for them to aim at the ball.

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colditz · 05/10/2006 22:48

GET HIM TO WATER THE GRASS, TELL HIM TO HOLD HIS WINKY, STICK IT OUT AND WEE WEE ON THE GRASS.

wrinklytum · 05/10/2006 23:35

If out and about ds loves having something to aim at.At the mo he aims for drains in the gutter and then proudly announces "Look mummy I weed like daddy"

2Babies0Bumps · 05/10/2006 23:43

whoever teaches him, make sure they also teach him that at home he sits on the loo to wee, he only stands up to wee everywhere else.
dh sits at home and the boys will be taught the same when they are old enough.
less pee splashes to clean off the radiator/floor/pan edge etc.

rosie79 · 06/10/2006 12:21

My DS just tought himself when he started going on his own instead of asking me to take him. He was 2.5. He got lots of practice from trips to park and countryside and stuff which helped. I don't think you need a man to show them. Also, he's a pretty good aim as it is only occasionally that there are splashes on the seat so it isn't a given that they will aim poorly!

DS sometimes holds it and sometimes just leans, depending on how much of a rush he's in. He then shakes, and usually remembers to put the seat down after him!

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