3 year old out of control.... Help

[Penpen]

Hi, I. Have 4 boys, the oldest 11 has aspergers, the next 7 is nurotypical, the next one is 6 and I think has aspergers and then I ah agave a complete ly feral 3 year old"..... I cannot decide if he has aspergers or is just really really badly behaved because the poor little guy was born at the time my oldest was having a breakdown due to school and house moves, I also have aspergers and had a massive wobble due to the stress at the time and my mental health has been wobbly since, but I just feel like I can't pick myself bak up again because my 3 year old is just exhausting. He does 3 mornings at pre school and my mum. Has him all day Fridays.

He hits, kicks, thrown, charges around being louder than loud, and is generall? just completely wold. I really can't cope with him and am on tot sure how to manage him.... None of my others were as difficult as him, even pre school and the child minder said they have never had one like him :(

Tearing my hair out as not sure how to help him. Feel like an awful mum because of I his behaviour, and he is just impossible to connect with when he is being wild. He occasionally settles down for a cuddle... And is obsessed with my hair!

Any advice much appreciated......

[bealfie14]

pen pen..... id say talk to the school of each of your children talk to as many parents as you can whether they are mums or dads, talk to your GP,Health visitor,midwives, social services etc etc NEVER EVER BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE A BAD PARENT.....keep asking talking and finding out ways to manage these behaviour patterns......I personally fought from the day my child was born until a few weeks before their 16th birthday when a Health profession then recognised and diagnosed a syndrome when they then took the time to REALLY LISTEN to what myself family AND CHILD HAD BEEN TELLING THEM for many years we then RECEIVED the HELP and Support my CHILD had been FIGHTING for and that We had been ASKING FOR YEARS....NO ONE WILL LISTEN IF YOU HIDE AWAY YOU NEED TO GET SUPPORT AND ADVICE FROM EVERY PROFESSIONAL YOU COME IN CONTACT WITH AND FAMILY FRIENDS ETC who may have an experience or solution that could help short or long term... Everyone needs Help at some point in their life and you should NEVER fear asking your G.P for Advice...... IF this helps just ONE child or ONE mum or dad then the time spent writing this will have been worth it..... Good luck x

[Penpen]

Thank you bealfie14. Your advice is much appreciated. He has been referred to camhs and I'm waiting for an appointment, health visitor aware, preschool aware, paediatrician referral too. My biggest fear is they decide it is a result of our home environment with other boys on the spectrum! Or my parenting! All an anxious time! Well done getting your child the right support.... I know how hard it is as I have done the same with my oldest in extremism of fighting for a diagnosis and school provision... Exhausting and a full time job!

[BertieBotts]

He sounds exactly like my DS. He has calmed down somewhat with age. I'm sorry I don't have any advice except to hope that he comes through it!