My little guy is generally a good kid. He is 4.5. He is very loving and outgoing overall but is starting to become extremely selfish. Almost every sentence is ,"i want, what can I have, may I please have this or that..." ect. He uses manners appropriately but is becoming so ungrateful and bratty unless he is getting something. Hes also stopped listening promptly which is my biggest problem. He will not listen to me until he knows he is going to immediately get in trouble. Time outs do not seem to be working at all anymore and Im tired of having to take a big stand for every single little request. I have started to keep him from having friends over when misbehaving and it is helping a bit. He is also refusing to take deep breaths and gets frustrated and tantrum like very easily when upset with something/someone. I have shifted my focus to 'our important reactions when we dont like something' but its not helping. He knows what he should be doing, he understands why he should be grateful, why being kind is most important and acting like a big boy will gain him more fun time but refuses almost always. I've honestly felt like a little swat on the butt promptly when he is acting out or not listening or being selfish (or rudely reactive) to others may help at this point but I have never really believed in raising my hands to him. I feel like he is kind of becoming not the greatest buddy to his friends and a brat at home. He also begins preschool in 2 days and I'm worried. He rarely listens to anyone except for me. I want to curb this asap and am hoping for any suggestions. Thanks so much in advance
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4 yr old becoming disobedient and I don't believe in spanking
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becknnico · 31/08/2014 17:27
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