Sudden toilet training regression (wees!)

(5 Posts)
SomeSunnySunday Thu 21-Aug-14 14:27:52

DS2 (3.4) has been completely and reliably toilet trained for almost a year. He was a dream to toilet train, instigated it himself and was dry day and night within a week. He has probably wet the bed 2 or 3 times in the last year, always when ill, and has literally never had a full in accident in the daytime - only the very occasional "tiny dribble" when we've not quite made it to the loo on time.

I honestly haven't given his toileting habits a thought in months as he takes himself (or asks to go if we are out).

All of this has suddenly changed. He has wet the bed for the last 2 nights, and has had full on wee accidents (i.e. completely emptying his bladder and soaking his clothes) every day this week. When asked why it is happening, he says "goo goo, I am a baby."

Now he's normally a confident and very happy little thing, but I am expecting a new baby in a few months (which he seems happy about, but talks about a lot) and he is starting pre-school soon (again he seems happy, but it's a major topic of conversation for him). So I can see why he might be feeling unsettled, although this is not manifesting itself in other ways.

My question is what to do about it. Stay calm and ignore it? Instigate a star chart / reward system (I'm sure he's in control)? Any other ideas?

Thanks in advance.

LittleLionMansMummy Thu 21-Aug-14 15:58:41

What has helped with us is telling ds stories about all the wonderful things older children can do that babies can't. Stuff like "it's a good job you're a big boy now because you wouldn't have been allowed on that ride if you were a baby!" Other than that just ignore, give loads of reassurance and cuddles to get him over the unsettled phase and maybe encourage him to sit on the toilet regularly without expecting him to volunteer it. It will pass.

BarbarianMum Thu 21-Aug-14 18:36:31

Stay clam, stay calm, ignore, ignore, ignore. Point him in the direction of dry clothes and leave it at that. Its a pghase and (If you do the above) will disappear in a few weeks.

Do NOT get cross, start reminding him to go to the loo, lecture him on being 'a big boy', use rewards, instigate punishments etc etc <voice of bitter experience>

SomeSunnySunday Fri 22-Aug-14 08:29:59

Thank you, all geared up to staying calm and ignoring today, and have packed lots is spare clothes and wipes for our trip out....

DIYandEatCake Fri 22-Aug-14 14:47:03

Just to say you're not alone, dd (3.6) has been having lots of 'little' accidents recently - and then wants to lie down on the floor for me to change her clothes, whilst pretending to be a baby. Sigh. She also starts preschool soon, and has an 8mo brother who's just started crawling, so I'm putting it down to that. It is maddening though. I'm getting sick of cleaning up puddles whilst trying to juggle a whinging baby.

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