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What can I do if the naughty step isnt working?

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kbaby · 19/09/2006 16:17

Weve been using it since march. DD is 2.4 yrs
We tell her what she did wrong, sit her on the step, then after 2 mins ask her why shes on there and she has to say sorry etc..
However it doesnt seem to be making a jot of difference. She keeps hitting out all the time. Yesterday we went to a park with her friend and she kept pulling and pushing him and even pushed him on the floor and pulled his hair. When I picked her up to tell her off she hit me across the head twice v hard.
Its as if she finds the naughty step one big joke but we dont know how else to disapline her. Its as if she needs something that will make her think about what shes done.

I dont know where shes even picked this behaviour up from. Could it be from the disney movies she watches ie shrek, nemo, tarzan.

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dreamteamgirl · 19/09/2006 16:55

Is she too young to understand consequences like loosing a favourite toy? If not then maybe that would be worth a try. Obvously explained well in advance and with visual cues of necessary.

Does she seem genuinely sorry when she comes off the naughty step?

No idea if Disney films could cause it... I guess any tv, book or outside influence could

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sorrell · 19/09/2006 16:57

I think you need to ignore her bad behaviour and really go overboard on praising her the rest of the time. Re the park, I'd say the consequence of hitting is that she goes home. A more meaningful punishment IMo than naughty step etc.

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PrettyCandles · 19/09/2006 17:18

I think that the naughty step can be too sophisticated for a 2yo to understand. Far better to take her by the arms, holding them to her sides so that she can't hit out (gently, but firmly, obviously) and say "No, we don't hit people." in a serious, strong, quiet voice. If she hits again then you take her right away fro the activity. I know that can be tough, and can cause greater tantrums, but generally, when the child sees that there are borders and that you will maintain them no matter what, then it only takes a few repetitions before the concept sinks in and they co-operate. Of course, part way through, or just when you think you've got it sussed, they will challenge you - lashing out, for example, while carefuly watching for your reaction. Which has to be the same as before. Consistency!