Does your child talk to themselves?

(21 Posts)
bringbackfonzi Wed 30-Jul-14 19:31:16

My dd who's 7 talks to herself quite a lot. It's started to worry me. Does anyone else have a child that does this?

jilted Wed 30-Jul-14 20:36:50

Is she role playing of just talking out loud?
My nearly 5 year old does but she usually does it when playing imaginary role plays iyswim? She has great long conversations with her imaginary friends !

Happy36 Wed 30-Jul-14 20:39:16

I did and kind of still do... (mostly in my head).

I wouldn't worry if she is happy.

bringbackfonzi Wed 30-Jul-14 21:54:07

No, not role playing, just saying thoughts out loud as she goes along. Is 7 a bit old for this kind of thing?

SocksRock Wed 30-Jul-14 21:55:19

My 4yo does it a lot. I do it as well, but keep it in my head as people definitely think it's odd to verbalise it as a 36 year old...

Finola1step Wed 30-Jul-14 21:57:47

My ds aged 6 does it. When he's playing, he will have little conversations with himself. It's fine. He knows that he's doing it and doesn't need to do it when with friends. It's just playing.

bringbackfonzi Wed 30-Jul-14 22:13:19

The thing is, she doesn't just do it when she's playing, she does it at random times. It's sort of commenting on stuff as she goes along.

jilted Thu 31-Jul-14 20:15:52

Do you think she might be lonely bring back? Does she have friends ?

jilted Thu 31-Jul-14 20:17:22

Both my brother and my husband do it a lot and they are both not very sociable or bother much with friends.

SmashleyHop Thu 31-Jul-14 20:22:00

My 11 yr old is doing it now as I type this. He is playing a video game and has this running commentary going. He does it sometimes just randomly too. He was an only child for 8 years before I had my other two though- so I think he's just used to kind of talking out loud for a bit of back ground noise.

SwedishEdith Thu 31-Jul-14 20:23:49

I think it's fine. I think it's one of those things that some people like me just do. As long as she knows when it might not always be appropriate, or is able to learn that, I wouldn't worry

Alreadyaugust Thu 31-Jul-14 20:37:48

My 27 year old daughter did this, and still does. She is really intelligent, works in the city and learns languages and plays instruments in her spare time. There's always something bubbling away in her head. She's done fine and is a happy person, it just seems that her thoughts don't always stay inside her head sometimes.

Wozald1989 Thu 31-Jul-14 22:47:34

I do this!! Was just talking to myself a minute ago haha, I have to stop myself

Standinginline Thu 31-Jul-14 22:51:51

I did it until I was about 7 / 8 when my brother was old enough to talk and play with me. Before that I think I was slightly lonely so had a friend called "Laura " and would have conversations with myself quite happily. I'm pretty normal and would say have some intelligence so has bearing on that.

Standinginline Thu 31-Jul-14 22:52:16

*so has NO bearing on that

bringbackfonzi Fri 01-Aug-14 00:29:44

Thanks everyone, that's reassuring! Funnily enough my dd had a Laura for a while too...

0dd Fri 01-Aug-14 00:45:40

My almost 7 year old DS does this a lot.

Even worse, he sings his conversations/narration.

It's like living in a musical! shock

He even whispers away to himself to soothe himself to sleep.

I just assume it's a sign of genius. wink. Which he takes after me, naturally.

Athrawes Mon 04-Aug-14 07:34:28

My DS (4) does this all the time, running commentary on what he is playing, or tells himself to "calm down" if he is getting upset.

PlumpPartridge Mon 04-Aug-14 07:38:33

My DS (3) wanders off talking to himself sadly when he's been told off. I do it when practicing conversations or immediately after a conversation (I tend to rehash and go over it in my head). I am 32 blush

One of my lecturers at uni actually did research on children talking to themselves. They put gadgets on children's necks to capture every utterance during play and track frequency of self-talk as a child matures. They discovered that children talk to themselves during play well past the age of seven, but it just becomes less audible. They detected sub-audible vocal cord activity in the majority of 10 year olds in their sample, so self-talk at 7 is perfectly normal. The volume will just reduce over time.

SecretWitch Tue 05-Aug-14 01:54:49

My almost seven year old dd has long intense conversations with herself and her imaginary playmates. She only does this when she alone.

I talk to myself constantly. I even talk in my sleep or so my dh says.

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