DS is 3.10. He's very strong willed, but fortunately also very loving, independent and into doing his own thing.
Anyway, DH cycled the London to Brighton bike ride today and we drove down to Brighton to meet him. We had a lovely fish and chip lunch, sat on the beach, played, had ice cream. All good.
Then came time to go home. DS did not want to leave. Now, Brighton was RAMMED with thousands of cyclists. All the roads along the sea front have cycle lanes built into the pavement, and he was refusing to walk with us and kept running away into the cycle lanes. We had a few near misses when cyclists nearly wiped out avoiding him. Traffic was also bad, and it's alongside a busy road. Finally, I'd prepaid the parking, and we had to get back to the car park before the ticket ran out!
He's a big lad so carrying him wasn't an option. DH had the rucksack, all his cycling gear plus his bike, and DD who had grazed her leg and was sitting on the bike being pushed along (DS refused to get in the bike as well).
In the end I just had to walk along, holding firmly onto his hand, while he screamed "Mummy, let go of my hand!" Lots of concerned looks from passer-bys. He was so cross he yelled for the whole of the 10 minute walk, and I felt terrible, and had to keep stopping to reiterate that I wouldn't let go of his hand because he couldn't be trusted to walk sensibly. The one time I tried letting go he ran across the cycle lane almost immediately to press the button on a pedestrian crossing that we didn't need to use. The cyclist who nearly hit him was (justifiably) very angry.
Now, I know how I handled it wasn't ideal, but does anyone have any tips for reasoning with children at this age? He's never behaved like this before and we usually walk everywhere, and DD was never this wilful, so I'm in uncharted territory here. I tried bribery (if you walk nicely you can have 3 stories tonight), threats (if you don't walk nicely there will be no stories tonight), but he was just furious at what he felt was an impingement of his freedom, and I felt like a failure. The judging looks I kept getting didn't help. So, mumsnet. Give me some advice! What could I have done better?
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stoopstofolly · 15/06/2014 20:48
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