I'm shifting between anger and tears at 8 year old son and most aspects of his behaviour.
He's always been the child in the middle of a 'commotion' when we went out, and as my best friend put it...'you always know when he's in the room'. He's been the one to break something, or do something that I'd have to reprimand.
We moved to Australia 2 1/2 years ago and had a shaky start and as a consequence son didn't start proper schooling for 3 months.....high life for him!! we did some stuff at home with reading, writing and bbc bitesize, any way since being here he's not been producing much work regarding writing, contributing to projects at school or writing in his diary etc. The school have identified him for testing to see if there are any underlying issues, and we're waiting for the results.
He is also EXTREMELY disorganised both at school and at home, he forgets jumpers, drinks bottles, lunch boxes, diary. The teacher has asked his classmates to support him by making sure he has correct stuff out.
I feel like I'm constantly on at him at home to do the stuff he does everyday, he 'forgets' to wash his face or clean his teeth in the morning...every morning. Pick up clothes/towels on the floor, brush his hair.
This coupled with stupid behaviour at break, spitting on people with water, sometimes nasty teasing towards an ill friend. He gets good marks with spellings and times tables tests, we practise a lot at home and he's really keen to do projects etc at home. When I take my eye off and relax with him a bit something else happens, and I kick myself for relaxing.
I'm losing it, I expect the worst at school, I focus on the negative bits, I shake with having to stop myself from hitting him sometimes for forgetting stuff and I'm seriously worried how this is affecting him to see me so angry at him most of the time. I do physical stuff like grab him and throw flannels at him when really frustrated, and I hate myself for reacting like this but can't help it.
My husband works away for 3 weeks out of the month, and I feel like I can't burden him with too much as I hear myself moaning and it pisses me off, let alone him. I'm SAHM with a 4 year old girl too. When husband does speak to him, he comes out with stupid comments like " everything you're doing is pretty much wrong", an 8 year old can't hear that!
HELP!!!!!!!!!!
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Angry at 8 year old son...help!
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soapyjack · 13/06/2014 01:39
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