Our 20-month-old is a very happy and sociable little chap, who turns into a screaming, terrified banshee at bedtime -- but only with me!
When his dad puts him to bed, it's 'night, night dada' and off to sleep on his own within 5 minutes. Which is what he used to do always -- until now.
When I put him to bed, he starts screaming as soon as his head hits the mattress. Then he clings to my hands and cries hysterically.
I have tried two 'methods' (if I can call them that):
- staying next to him, holding his hand and waitnig till he (finally) falls asleep. It's deeply frustrating because in most cases, he looks utterly delighted to have me there, starts chatting and then thinks it's play time. The whole process takes up to an hour. I love him, but I'm not cut out for this long term!
- 'controlled crying' (controlled? yeah right). This is what I've been doing for the past week. I do the same sleep routine as I've always done, give him a cuddle, put him to bed, say good night and leave the room. He screams blue murder for at least 10 mins. I really feel I'm damaging him and feel like a complete failure.
Everyone tells me that boys reserve their worst behaviour for their mothers, but I don't find that very helpful.
Has any of you experienced this and succeeded with controlled crying? If so, do you think I should ask his dad not to put him to bed for a week or so? I'm wondering whether we are confusing him by alternating -- one (blissful) bedtime with dad, followed by one (traumatic) with me...
Any tips MUCH appreciated! Thank you.