children and disorganisation

[morethanpotatoprints]

My dd is 10 and completely disorganised.
She is a creative type, not that this is an excuse but to say it doesn't come naturally or easy to her.
I want her to become independent and to at least know where her important things are.
I feel she loses so much free time trying to sort out the mess she leaves that she misses out on things.
Her brothers were far better at this age and before reaching high school were well on their way to managing quite well.
I'm not sure what is normal anymore and how much longer I should be prepared to carry her.
She is also H.ed which means we spend a lot of time together, I have tried the usual tactics of with holding treats, pocket money, reasoning, helping, leaving her to it, etc but nothing seems to work.
Her Dad is really disorganised and have even used him as an example of how not to manage things and this has made no change.
Is she normal and I expect too much, what do others think.
Sorry its so long.

[evenafterall]

Sounds like my dd who is 6... she is like whirlwind of chaos. Just got diagnosed with dyspraxia. Sometimes the relentless meandering mess is so bad I have to leave the room just to hear myself think!

[morethanpotatoprints]

evenafterall.

It's funny you should mention dyspraxia as I too have this with dyslexia.
Maybe she is just picking up bad habits from dh and myself.
I want her to get better so she doesn't seem to waste so much time looking for things.
Do you have any tips, and thank you for the response.