DC obsessed with buying stuff

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beenbean Mon 31-Mar-14 22:56:57

Hello mn wonder if anyone has had similar experience or got any ideas about this? Ds1 age 6 and a half is OBSESSED with wanting me to buy him toys mostly lego. I know this sounds fairly normal but really its all he talks about...I find myself responding so emotionally like I think please be happy! Please dont just want stuff!!
Tonight he went on and on about how he wants me to get him 3 lego sets for Easter ffs...I lost my cool and ended up giving him a lecture about how he could have all that if he didnt want us to eat or have a house blah blah...didnt shout but did lecture which of course wont help
he doesnt watch any tv channels with adverts but likes looking at the lego website and lego movies on youtube...he also gets the lego catalogues and club magazines. ..I'm sure none of that helps.
I try to avoid going to shops with him e.g. supermarkets which sell toys. Try to not put him in a situation where he will want stuff and I say no
I guess an idea would be to give him more attention maybe!! But I try really hard with that already as does DH.
he has pocket money and a chart to look at to see how much he needs to save up for something that he wants.
I just wish he was interested in more things not just constant buying of stuff
honestly its relentless...he just seems so unhappy and obsessed with it all
any ideas??

AwfulMaureen Tue 01-Apr-14 13:28:14

Stop the club catalogues now....I would also think about stopping the mags but if they've got good activities in them then maybe keep them. A 6 year old does not need catalogues...they send them exactly for this reason...pester power.

If you are honest, do you eventually give in to his demands?

For now, sit him down and tell him that you will not be buying ANY lego until his birthday and in the meantime, he can earn money to save up for his own by completing certain jobs around the house. Pay him no more than a pound a week. He's 6...he doesn't get to nag you into misery.

bakingtins Tue 01-Apr-14 18:06:35

Where did he get this expectation you'll buy him stuff from?

My ds1 (7) loves Lego and often says "I want xyz" but he has no expectation we'll buy it for him. He has a Roosterbank (online virtual bank) account and gets £1 a week to save up for things he wants, and he has an Amazon wish list so when it comes to Christmas or birthdays the rellies can choose from things he wants, but he's quite clear that a wish list is just that - wishes - and there is no guarantee he will get any/all of it.
He'll be getting a chocolate egg for Easter confused

I think you need to think about where your DS's expectation stems from, and why you feel guilty about saying no and meaning it.

Onesleeptillwembley Tue 01-Apr-14 18:10:33

Why on earth would he expect that for Easter? It's an egg or nothing (and a new outfit here). Do you always buy him stuff for silly reasons? If so I'm guessing you know the answer before this gets even worse.

Annietheacrobat Tue 01-Apr-14 19:10:11

My DNs can be a bit like this . I think it comes from SIL though . She's always talking about presents, what her children want for their next birthday etc. She also compares how much the grandparents spend on each grandchild. Just be firm .

DS2 (4) is very acquisitive in a way that DS1 wasn't at that age (and still isn't). We just put up with the whingeing and tell him he can't have new toys all the time. Hope it's a phase and doesn't last long!

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