I went to collect ds from preschool yesterday and his key worker asked me to come in for a minute. She then told me that ds had started pushing the other children during his sessions last week, and that he was continuing to do it throughout yesterday's session. I assume they hadn't mentioned it earlier as its out of character for ds and they were trying to ascertain if he was just having an off day.
My ds has no speech (he's 3.4) and the preschool has been fantastic for him as they have a dedicated SAL programme that his current SALT delivers and his key worker assists with.
Key worker told me the approach they are taking with ds is to say to him "hands down" or similar, rather than constantly telling him no or telling him off as she is concerned that ds does not understand how his actions are affecting others (rather than him just being naughty) and they don't want the other children to become aware that ds is constantly being reprimanded.
I fully support the way the preschool want to handle ds' behaviour and have said we will use the same methods at home, however ds very rarely behaves like that at home. He is generally very gentle with his younger dd, apart from when they get a bit excited playing together and he forgets how much bigger he is that her.
Just feeling a bit sad as ds already "stands out" from his lack of speech, I really don't
want other children being upset by him and him becoming ostracised by his classmates. Other than reinforcing the methods suggested by preschool what else can I do to help him? I think a lot of the behaviour stems from frustration at not being able to communicate effectively with the other children. We have taught him makaton sign language to give him a form of communication, but obviously the other children still won't necessarily understand what ds is trying to say.
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Ds pushing other children at preschool
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YesIveNameChanged · 25/03/2014 07:56
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