6 year old raiding chocolate

(64 Posts)
FedupofTurkey Sat 22-Mar-14 09:31:00

Every weekend the same thing - 6 yr dss raids the chocolate cupboard. He knows he's not supposed to as i say it every week but it makes no difference. The consequence is he doesn't get chocolate for the rest of the day but again it makes no difference. What can I do, the chocolate is in a cupboard as high as possible.

JuniperHeartwand Sat 22-Mar-14 13:37:49

Don't have a chocolate cupboard at all?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Sat 22-Mar-14 13:44:56

Don't have a chocolate cupboard. I can't control myself around that sort of thing, it is unfair yo expect a 6 year old to have that sort of control.

MrsDavidBowie Sat 22-Mar-14 13:50:11

Put it somewhere else.
Don't buy any.

Mygoldfishrocks Sat 22-Mar-14 13:53:57

blimey. dont they all do this?

just put it elsewhere

NigellasDealer Sat 22-Mar-14 13:55:21

"chocolate cupboard" grin

I have a 6 yo DSS as well!

We would be pretty cross with him for stealing food, but like Juniper says, the idea of a 'chocolate cupboard' seems like a bit of an unnecessary temptation. It doesn't seem healthy for him to have an expectation to be able to eat chocolates every day anyway (you mentioned his punishment is no more chocolate for the day).

Would your DP/H be on board with trying to wean him out of this habit? Usually I would think he needs to take charge on it really, depending on your family dynamic.

HTH

FedupofTurkey Sat 22-Mar-14 14:14:32

It is elsewhere! There is some in the kitchen, but the rest is stored elsewhere! It'd be unfair on the other kids not to have any in the house. The 6 year old has an extremely sweet tooth, I've been trying to reduce the amount of sugar he has.

Why would it be unfair not to have any? Genuinely perplexed not judgy.

You can give treats but don't see why has to be chocolate. In fact walking to corner shop with you for chocolate might be more fun !

Mygoldfishrocks Sat 22-Mar-14 14:20:38

put it all elsewhere and dole it out

this is a bit of a non problemgrin

JuniperHeartwand Sat 22-Mar-14 15:22:59

Okay, an idea then.

Put a set amount of treats in the "chocolate cupboard" once a week (after you go shopping for example). Once it's gone, it's gone. So no restriction, temptation etc - if the 6yo eats it all at once and is sick he'll learn, if he eats it all and it means there's none left for siblings then he'll certainly learn from them about sharing!

RiverTam Sat 22-Mar-14 15:24:36

chocolate cupboard? why not buy chocolate and eat it there and then, rather than have it hanging around. That's a lot of self-control you're expecting anyone, child or adult, to have!

Marne Sat 22-Mar-14 15:30:28

We have a chocolate cupboard grin (I don't eat it), my 8 year old can not control herself around any food, tbh she has Autism and can eat until shes sick, we have to lock the kitchen door to keep her out, I also hide things in different cupboards to confuse her. We always have chocolate in the house, the kids have a small chocolate biscuit or cake in their lunch boxes and dh will take a chocolate bar to work to eat with his lunch, we also keep biscuits in case people come over for tea or coffee. Dd 2 will also pinch fruit, raw veg, frozen food and yoghurts so nothing is safe grin.

Orangeanddemons Sat 22-Mar-14 15:36:31

Christ, if we had a chocolate cupboard, I would never stop eating it. Neither would dd. surely even having one is just asking for trouble?

AcrossthePond55 Sat 22-Mar-14 15:47:39

I agree with others, either hide it or lock it away & dole it out. There's nothing wrong with sweets in the house, but if a family member (adult or child) can't control themselves, then the temptation needs to be removed.

My own DH has a terrible sweet tooth. A chocolate bar will last me 3 days as all I need is a 'bite' to satisfy me. I literally have a 'lock box' to stash my chocs in.

AcrossthePond55 Sat 22-Mar-14 15:48:58

Oh, and what's the point of saying he can't have any more chocolate 'that day'. He's already HAD chocolate so he probably doesn't really care. Saying he can't have any chocolate for the next 3 days may work better.

Fluffycloudland77 Sat 22-Mar-14 15:53:46

We just don't have chocolate in the house confused

Meglet Sat 22-Mar-14 15:54:01

Store the chocolate in your bedroom, top of the wardrobe?

starlight1234 Sat 22-Mar-14 16:06:22

I would say the consequence is you don't buy chocolate.....

My Ds loves chocolate and it crept up on us his cereal had chocolate mousse for puddings and though I didn't realise he was eating so much..I stopped replaced all the yoghurts with fruit yoghurts , Cereal no chocolate etc until he started enjoying the other foods as treats ...

Any of your children don't need daily chocolate..

Like a previous poster said why would he be bothered he has already got his chocolate

TheAwfulDaughter Sat 22-Mar-14 16:31:49

The OP should be able to have a chocolate cupboard without DSS helping himself to food. Whether she has chocolate in the house isn't really the issue, and to all of you smugly saying that you don't keep it in the house and OP shouldn't either- GOOD FOR YOU, but it doesn't make you a better parent nor person.

Reprimand him every time he does. You shouldn't have to hide it.

TheAwfulDaughter Sat 22-Mar-14 16:35:06

At 6 he may not have the best self control but he's certainly capable of asking 'Can I have some chocolate please?', not just taking it.

He wouldn't be allowed to help himself out of other people's lunch boxes or raid the sweet section of the school canteen, so why is this different?

Ragwort Sat 22-Mar-14 16:35:51

But why have the temptation TheAwfulDaughter - surely in your own house you can help yourself to treats - in our house I am the only one who goes to the 'chocolate cupboard' with disastrous results grin.

I think if you genuinely don't want one child to over eat on 'treats' then it is best to hide them, or just not buy them.

It must be a bit like ignoring an open bottle of wine ...........

RiverTam Sat 22-Mar-14 17:00:45

I was just going to mention wine - if I had a house full of wine I would crack open a bottle every other night. If I had a cupboard full of treats I would eat them. The self-control is not buying the stuff in the first place!

TheAwfulDaughter Sat 22-Mar-14 18:09:02

Because you need to learn to resist temptation! A 6 year old needs to learn that you can't just help yourself to food. Why should the OP have to hide the Rocky bars and mini bags of buttons on top of her wardrobe because a child has not been taught politely to ask if they may have something to eat.

All of the children I know, even younger than 6 know that they need to ask mummy or daddy if they want a cookie- they don't just raid it!

Chocolate is a bit of a red herring. It is a luxury treat good so people will pile on and say that 'you should have it anyway'

If it was the OP's iPad being used or her make up getting raided because her child purposely raids the safe, hidden place (from my understanding the chocolate cupboard isn't the easiest to get to!) despite them saying NO, the responses would be very different.

TheAwfulDaughter Sat 22-Mar-14 18:10:16

*taught to politely ask, that should have said.

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