Hi everyone
I am just wondering if my feelings are shared or if its just some mad depressed mother state of mind that I find myself drowning in at this present point in time.
I have no family in the UK and two pre-schoolers. While I got the positive attention we all get with a new baby in shopping malls or out in general. Now I get, for the most part, nothing much or states or tuts if they do anything other than behave like a mature adult. They are normal children with lots of energy and we have taught them social norms and expectations but get tired and grumpy like any other child. I can almost accept that, after all babies are an amazing gift to the world.
What I find hard is that I am increasingly being invited to things (by non parent friends, older friends mainly) but ONLY me and partner or only me. Not having family in the country we rarely get out without the children (in the past 12 months - maybe three times).
I can't go or can't go without becoming more than stressed out because of the logistics and organisational issues. We live in London so long travel times to 'pop in' compound the problem,
This has left me feeling alienated from everyone and everything as I get the distinct impression that no one wants to know other people's children. People with children I can see, yes, unless of course they have family or its an important event like Christmas.
I did not really notice this before children or when they were young. Am I feeling like this as its real or is it just while they are this age? Is it time to go back to our own birth country?
One very lonely mummy.....
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Alienated as a Parent with no family in UK
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Drofoxnow · 08/03/2014 16:54
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