Concerns about my daughter.

(135 Posts)
DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:03:27

My daughter is 14.5 months old. She can walk unaided however she has no words, doesn't point or wave, she can clap but mostly it's arm flapping. She doesn't seem to respond to her name as well as before and when it comes to her toys she just hits them together then throws them.

She'll look and move an object in her hand and just stare at it.

She loves books but is more than happy to sit herself with them. She has good eye contact and will beam when I look at her, she likes to find me when I hide and laughs a lot when she does.

She does make a "mmmmmm" nose and she seems to say "goh" a lot.

I'm waiting for my HV to call back and arrange an appointment to see her.

Also if I point and look at something she doesn't pay attention.

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:04:39

She is also very affectionate and will kiss us without being prompted to.

Onesleeptillwembley Mon 03-Feb-14 13:09:38

I'd bypass the HV and go to the doctor. Not scaremongering, I don't know your daughter, but HVs are useless (at best).

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:10:43

Thank you, I'll try and get her an appointment with one of the better GPs.

Onesleeptillwembley Mon 03-Feb-14 13:12:03

Hope it's ok. smile

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:13:44

Me too, Wembley. I think I'm part of the problem with reading too much into "milestones" and comparing her with other babies her age. But I can't shake the gut feeling.

Onesleeptillwembley Mon 03-Feb-14 13:15:06

It's only natural. My grandson is 19 months and just didn't talk. Now he's chattering all the time in the last two weeks. We're all different.

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:16:28

I should also mention that I have anxiety. I just hope it's me being paranoid.

Onesleeptillwembley Mon 03-Feb-14 13:21:37

Ah well at least you know you do! That's surely a better thing than not realising. I honestly think everybody has doubts with their children at some time. You'd have to be blind or truly disinterested to not have any worry at anytime.

PlasmaBall Mon 03-Feb-14 13:22:50

From your post I don't think you have any need to worry but as you are worried I would take her to see GP. Agree don't bother with HV.

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:25:07

Thank you, Wembley. If it wasn't for Google or Babycentre emails I wouldn't think there was anything "wrong" with her. (horrible use of the word 'wrong' but unsure how to articulate it.)

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:26:05

Thanks, Plasma. I'll ring once she's asleep.

Onesleeptillwembley Mon 03-Feb-14 13:29:12

I know what you mean. Stop googling!!!grin

GemmaPomPom Mon 03-Feb-14 13:29:17

Sounds like my DD. She is 16 months and has only just starting saying a few words. She has even lost the words she had a few weeks ago. I am not overly worried. Her brother (my DS) was walking and talking at 10 months and now - at aged 8 - is just average.

I just think some babies are more laidback than others. Funnily enough, "mmmm" was DD's first word. But then she loves her food!

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:31:52

Everyone here is so helpful and kind. I feel calmer now already.

Badvoc Mon 03-Feb-14 13:32:35

My ds1 was nearly 2 before he talked.
wanders off muttering about how now he is 10 he won't shut up smile
Agree re: HV...they are crap.
I think any GP is happy to see a child if a parent is worried.
Good luck x

Onesleeptillwembley Mon 03-Feb-14 13:35:09

Good. Don't forget, we've all been there at some time, whatever age, whatever reason. You're completely normal (as much as anyone is).

scarlet5tyger Mon 03-Feb-14 13:35:48

I'm a foster carer of lots of babies and they really ARE all different! I've had several who didn't have any words until 15/16 months. Going off the Internet you'd swear that all children are child genius's who can recite Shakespeare by 2 years old, when in actual fact they are "goh"ing just as much as your LO, it's just that their mums hear "goh" as "can I have a banana please?"

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:40:04

I've managed to get an appointment next week with a really lovely GP. It's not so much lack of words that have me concerned, it's the seemingly lack of shared attention.

Onesleeptillwembley Mon 03-Feb-14 13:42:25

They don't always get into that until a bit later. Depends what's interesting to them.

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 03-Feb-14 13:45:20

Books and throwing things seem to be favourites. We let her watch a bit of Disney Junior before bathtime and she turns and smiles at us at bits she likes.

Onesleeptillwembley Mon 03-Feb-14 13:47:35

Sounds fine to me - in fact lovely. Stop torturing yourself. Honestly.

DontWannaBeObamasElf Tue 04-Feb-14 08:05:24

Having another wobble. She's not responding to her name and we watched a video of a study with NT and ASD 14 month olds. It was like watching her....

Branleuse Tue 04-Feb-14 08:11:25

I would speak to your HV, and ask to be referred to a specialist HV, if there is one. These are very similar concerns that I had with ds2, especially the not taking any notice of his name and the flapping. He has high functioning autism, and he is nearly 7 Now and doing very well at school, but if it is the case, then I'm all for as early intervention as possible, as are most people who deal with these issues.
If it isn't the case, them you've lost nothing, but if it is, then you can access support

DontWannaBeObamasElf Tue 04-Feb-14 08:14:04

What scares me the most is that if it is Autism, she may regress and won't be my loving, cuddly little girl. I don't have much understanding of it but it terrifies me.

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