changed names in case this is a mumsnetter!
had a boy from ds's class over last week (boy aged 4 and a half). Had originally arranged to meet in the playground (he is very boisterous) but they were over an hour late so I came home and she knocked on my door later (I think this was a deliberate ploy by her!). He is and always has been a very defiant child - always convinced he is right and never listens to his mum, even though she is quite fierce and uses all sorts of discipline tactics - should also point out that she has a 2 month old baby.
Soooo, in they come - his mum gives him some crisps which he empties on my carpet and stamps on them (she rolls her eyes up to the ceiling and mutters something like 'boys! I am sorry!')
I put them in the garden - 20 mins later, ds runs in and the boy has kicked ALL his balls over the fence. I go and get them, ask the boy not to do it again and he deliberately does it all over again and kicks 2 so far that we never retrieve them. The mum asks if there is a problem, I tell her and she says 'well your garden is quite small, he is used to higher fences but X, if you can't play nicely come inside'
I get a snack (piece of cake) - he shoves the whole thing in his mouth then spits it at dd and ds. He gets sent outside by his mum (in the meantime, chucks all the balls over the fence again) and then comes in laughing with a bucket of soil which he chucks on the carpet.
Finally, he wants to wear ds's clothes. I say no problem. Mum says no (as he has been wetting himself deliberately since baby was born) so he runs into the room with the carpet and does a massive poo and wee in his pants so he gets to wear ds's clothes as she doesn't have a change of clothes.
She asks me if I think they should leave and I said yes (because it's going to take me ages to sort out the carpet and dh is off overseas and I want to spend some time with him when he gets home rather than clearing up). I didn't give her reason just that I thought it might be better if they went.
So they were due to return ds's clothes (his most loved sport's shirt - didn't have a chance to veto this as was so busy clearing up poo) but have heard no word from them and ds needs his sport's kit for a sport camp he is doing. Do you think this is embarrassment or do you think I should just go round and knock on their door?
Should say that when I agreed they should leave she looked really put out and made some comment about how he was fine at other people's houses and how I hadn't arranged many games/activites for them to do!
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Disastrous playdate and now the mum will not return my calls. I need your thoughts on this please!
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playdatefromhell · 28/07/2006 18:03
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