How to keep a 1 month old awake

(36 Posts)
Taler Tue 10-Dec-13 17:35:36

Hi all,

My daughter is 1 month old and we are on day 5 of Gina Ford's Contented Little Baby routine.

Any advice on how to keep a 1 month old awake as finding it difficult to keep her up at the times she's meant to be up.

Thanks,

Gemma

MBRaz Wed 18-Dec-13 14:16:56

I second Goldmandra. I bought a million books in the first few weeks of DD's life as I was so convinced I didn't know what I was doing. I didn't, but I also didn't know that that was ok.

With hindsight, I WISH I'd never woken my baby up or tried to put her in a blasted routine, but I sort of had to learn that for myself!

Goldmandra Mon 16-Dec-13 12:52:14

I think the OP has probably got the message by now smile

I remember how fragile and lacking in confidence I felt at that stage and I don't think she needs to hear that she shouldn't be doing this any more than is already on this thread.

Let baby sleep.

ds1 slept all the time at first and then naturally went into this wonderful routine of his own which -coincidentally only I am sure- fitted in with us.

d2 jeeeeeez he never slept, only power napped, was clingy, wanted a bazillion teeny feeds instead of regular longer ones,

and a friend whose first baby had been like ds2 while I was smug perfect parent with my routiney ds1 said 'and are you trying all those things you told me to do with dd?' YES!

so you see sometimes the book gets lucky and you get a child that is naturally in that sort of routine. The rest are on a sliding scale until you get ones that just cannot and will not fit into a forced routine.

Trying to deliberately keep a tiny baby awake? No no no no no.

minipie Mon 16-Dec-13 10:58:26

I wouldn't try keeping her awake tbh - UNLESS she is asleep all day and awake all night? Then it might be worth trying to stretch her awake times in the day in order to establish day/night separation.

But otherwise, no. Too little sleep and you risk overtiredness - which is far far far far worse <bitter voice of experience> than any consequence of too much sleep.

If you have a baby who loves her sleep (lucky you!) then I would use that to your benefit to try to teach self settling, in a very gentle way. Swaddling, stroking, shhing etc when she is sleepy until gradually she can fall asleep by herself. If you can do this during the sleepy newborn phase it will reap rewards later (especially at the 4 month sleep regression stage).

Honestly GF works for some and not for others. If your baby doesn't naturally take to it then don't force it. I think it is particularly unlikely to work for EBF babies. I know plenty of parents (including me!) who have stuck rigidly to GF when it was making both them and their baby miserable and frankly their babies didn't sleep through any earlier than the average.

Kiwiinkits Sun 15-Dec-13 11:22:34

I agree with the sentiment from everyone here. Too early for routine.
If you do want to wake a dozy breast feeding baby you can hold them up vertically and their eyes will pop open like a little doll's. Or you can rub their palm while they're feeding to keep them awake. But that's only to keep them awake long enough that they get a full feed, not just the fore milk.

BobPatSamandIgglePiggle Sat 14-Dec-13 11:10:12

Gosh - please don't try to keep her awake, they NEED to sleep lots when newborn!

Mrswellyboot Sat 14-Dec-13 11:07:39

I bought the book and it started stressing me out while I was pregnant. Looks nice on the bookcase but haven't opened it since.
I would let the baby lead. Feed on demand. Our son woke a lot for two months then suddenly slept during the night until 7.30

I think it is very rigid and spoils the fun a bit. Maybe better to read about routines when the child is older. Don't wake the baby !

Congrats on your newborn flowers

duchesse Sat 14-Dec-13 10:51:54

You can't keep a newborn awake. Sleep is a developmental necessity at this age.

cakehappy Sat 14-Dec-13 10:39:02

Good god, sorry to be harsh but WHY??? Why try to keep a little one awake? I've got a 6 week old who sleeps about 12 hours a day, couldn't imagine keeping her up or wanting too, they sleep so much for a reason, don't mess with nature!

Jinglejohnsjulie Fri 13-Dec-13 16:59:45

How are you getting on now Taler? Are you trying to get a routine because you are struggling? Is there anything we can help you with? smile

somewheresomehow Fri 13-Dec-13 16:33:50

oh lord your baby is a month old, sleep is what they do best at a month they eat, sleep, poo, and wee, please don't try forcing an agenda on the little thing its not the way to do it she will adjust her sleeping as she grows

msmiggins Wed 11-Dec-13 20:57:35

Do mothers really let these silly books override common sense?

Babies sleep a lot- they need to sleep a lot- why would you want to wake them on some stupid advice of a woman who have never even had children herself?
Do your baby a favour- chuck the book. I wouldn't even give it to a charity shop in case some other new mother buys it.

TheBakeryQueen Wed 11-Dec-13 20:49:30

Sleep is really important as this is when growth happens.

It is cruel to try & keep such a young baby awake.

She will naturally fall into her own routine as she gets older. And you can tweak the routine, over time, sp that it suits you too.

Congratulations smile

wellieboots Wed 11-Dec-13 04:11:29

A one month old may only last an hour at a time awake. please don't try and keep your baby awake, it will only make you (and her) stressedthanks

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange Wed 11-Dec-13 03:49:45

Being woken up when you want to be asleep is shit, hence the quest for the perfect routine so us parents can minimise it happening to us. Bloody, bloody good point.

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange Wed 11-Dec-13 03:49:04

You started GF when your baby was 3 weeks old? That's barely out of the womb. Put the book down and let the poor child sleep.

DevonFolk Tue 10-Dec-13 23:18:15

Burn it (the book that is). Please please don't try to keep a newborn awake sad

wonderstuff Tue 10-Dec-13 23:13:06

Throw the book away.

notsomuchroomattheinn Tue 10-Dec-13 23:10:57

You can't keep a tiny baby happily awake, there are ways to try and wake them up. Making them cold, tickling their feet can do it but they don't like it and you will almost certainly end up with a distressed baby.
Being woken up when you want to be asleep is shit, hence the quest for the perfect routine so us parents can minimise it happening to us.
Enjoy having a lovely snuggly time with your gorgeous newborn. It passes so quickly, and you don't want to waste it stressing about a routine written by someone who has never met you or your baby.

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 10-Dec-13 22:56:17

You are joking, arnt you?

SantanaLopez Tue 10-Dec-13 22:53:16

Never ever ever keep a 1 month old awake, let the poor thing sleep!

Jiltedjohnsjulie Tue 10-Dec-13 22:53:10

grin at fliss. Don't think my DS read it either, but then neither did I. DMIL gave me a copy, I got to the bit where she talks about depression and thought, well I felt ok till I started reading this and put it in the bin! smile

Taler these first few weeks are more about getting to know your baby and if you are bfing, establishing your supply. There is some good info on kellymom and have you heard of the 4th trimester?

McPheelingUpSanta Tue 10-Dec-13 22:51:36

Follow babys lead, and throw that bloody book away!

I slide those books down the back of shelves when I see them, just to spare the next parent/baby the anguish wink

Awful women.

ShoeWhore Tue 10-Dec-13 22:45:42

Oh please don't!

The thing is, all babies are different and (much like their parents) need different amounts of sleep. Follow your baby's cues and the chances are that after a while, you will start to notice patterns and can build a routine around them that works for both of you.

Fairylea Tue 10-Dec-13 22:40:32

Pointless trying really!

I swore by Gina Ford for dd and then I had ds ten years later and he wouldn't go into the routines at all and I came to realise I had just been lucky with dd, I think it would have worked out that that was her natural routine anyway regardless of the book.

With ds I just followed the general advice - like naps in the dark in his cot, blackout blinds , making sure he started the day at 7 am latest (which was partly due to needing to be up for dds school run anyway) and when he was very little I didn't let him sleep more than 2-3 hours before waking for a feed during the day.

Dd began sleeping through from about 6 weeks. Ds took longer, he was about 6 months.

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