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which books for dealing with tantrums

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Kjaysmum · 17/07/2006 11:07

I am feeling a little adrift here. DS is 2.2 and is being somewhat contrary. He is either very happy or very upset, his mood swings are extreme. We have been through some major upheavals resently as a family and I think he needs time to adjust but in the meantime I feel I need some guidence.
I have ordered Alphie Kohns, Unconditional parenting.
Any other suggestions for reading material

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jabberwocky · 17/07/2006 19:22

I saw a book on another thread called The Social Toddler and plan to order it soon.

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Kjaysmum · 17/07/2006 21:20

thanks Jabberwocky, it's quite a tough time we're having at the moment. DP finding it hard as he's just taken over a new business and is coming home just at that time when DS is at his most difficult. Started putting him in his room (DS that is ) but have gone back to trying to get him to use a 'thinking seat' as it feels wrong and a bit of a cop out to put him behind a door. Just got to go through it I quess until he can learn to control himself.

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WideWebWitch · 17/07/2006 21:22

Sounds normal for the age tbh. I like toddler taming but it's not for everyone.

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jabberwocky · 17/07/2006 22:19

They all go through it, ds is going through it a bit later than most (2.11) so I had thought we might get out of it. I know it's hard, and I have to keep reminding myself this as well, but - everything is a stage and does pass...eventually!

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nooka · 17/07/2006 22:28

I also found Toddler Taming useful. If just to realise that ds's behaviour was fairly normal (although extreme!) I think it's just part of not being very adept at understanding what to do with your emotions when you are little.

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Kjaysmum · 18/07/2006 08:00

thanks your comments are very reassuring, today I have been practising being a calm and tranquil sea!!It does seem to help but is not easy.....

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Kjaysmum · 22/07/2006 10:15

seems like weeks since I wrote this post, interesting to read it back. There is a definate link between my stress levels and his, this is probably really obvious stuff to you old hands but I have been much more consistant lately and trying to remain very calm, his tantrums are defintely getting less and shorter, is this just a phase, if so let it be a long one, praise be!!!!