Criticism of dd's sleep

(25 Posts)
BadgerBumBag Mon 11-Nov-13 16:59:28

I went out with friends today and we were speaking about sleep patterns in our 2.5 to almost 3 year olds.

Dd sleeps for 11-13 hours a night with the odd sleep in of 14-15 hours when we have been particularly busy. Eg 7pm-9 or 10am

A couple if friends say it is abnormal and have said I need to keep an eye on her health. I don't organise much before 10am as I want dd to sleep as much as she needs on the days she isn't at pre school. All of my friends have 9:15 play dates after the school run but I have no need to be up as I have no older children.

I am quite upset that my friends are beginning to take the piss and we are known as the sleepy family as my child isn't up at 5-7 when my friends children rise.

Not sure why I'm posting but I don't know anyone with a late sleeping toddler and feel like I am not a real mum unless slept deprived by my child and wanting to talk about this at every turn hmm

I run a business and am a university student so am busy and like my lie ins when dd allows

BadgerBumBag Mon 11-Nov-13 17:01:21

Just wanted to clarify my friends have hinted that my life is nowhere near as difficult as theirs as no sleep deprivation, which may be true, but I am beginning to feel guilty

Oh and I am not smug about it, rather I avoid the subject

tethersend Mon 11-Nov-13 17:03:42

DD1 was exactly the same, and still would be at nearly five if her sister didn't jump on her head at seven every morning.

Some children just need more sleep than others.

Cherish it, there's no feeling in the world like a toddler sleeping until 10 <goes all misty eyed>

tethersend Mon 11-Nov-13 17:04:24

Oh, and be as smug as you like. I was grin

BadgerBumBag Mon 11-Nov-13 17:06:25

Thank you so much!!! I call her my teenage toddler smile

Reassured smile

BadgerBumBag Mon 11-Nov-13 17:07:46

Oh and the record is 11:55 after a 8:30pm bedtime shock

They must be jealous.

My DD sleeps about 11 hours a night. She has a "catch-up" nap about once a week. What your DD does is pretty much the same, its just that the catch-up is done by having a lie-in.

Vintagebeads Mon 11-Nov-13 17:17:54

My friend kids are like this ...lucky cow grin
Enjoy the lovely long sleeps and long may they continue!!

CbeebiesIsMyLife Mon 11-Nov-13 17:26:35

My dd was the same, I had to put her to bed around 6pm and she would wake at 7am. And she would have a 2-3 hour nap in the day. She's just started sleeping 7pm till 6am and has dropped her nap (just turned 3)
Dd2 (20 months) naps 2-3 hours and sleeps 11-13 hours at night. She would sleep more but he sister wakes her up!
I have to say people assume that there's no sleep deprivation but they (particularly dd2) still wakes at night calli g out, she's not awake as such but needs soothing to get back to sleep.
I would ignore them.

BackforGood Mon 11-Nov-13 18:28:13

It's not really criticism - it's just massive jealousy which I share.
Just enjoy smile

CJones1982 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:35:17

My just turned 3 yr old DS sleeps 6.30 to 6.30 with odd lay ins and maybe 1 - 2 catch up naps! They are just jealous. Enjoy it and the next time you see the mums say 'you look tired!'

ThreeBecameFour Mon 11-Nov-13 18:43:24

enjoy it and ignore the jealous? nope not me...not one tiny bit....;-) .(2.5 yr old hasn't really ever slept through and currently have a 3 month old on addition...i haven't had a decent nights sleep for nearly 3 years.....) seriously though you are lucky and blessed!

MiaowTheCat Mon 11-Nov-13 18:51:14

My toddler would given half the chance (we have to be up early unfortunately and she's a bloody grouch on a morning) go 6.30pm to about 8am quite naturally!

Sadly her little sister thinks 5am is wake up time so I'm screwed - can't really complain when we've had a rough "getting them both to sleep" evening and they're both still out by 6.45pm (neither of them are good on a later bedtime).

extracrunchy Mon 11-Nov-13 18:53:25

They're just jealous - as am I! Maybe some of theirs are still doing daytime naps too? Enjoy it grin

Raddy Mon 11-Nov-13 19:00:44

Every parent of a toddler would want this, it sounds marvellous.

Your friends are insanely, bitterly jealous.

Ahappysoul Mon 11-Nov-13 19:18:04

My ds1 4.5 has always been like this - sleeps 7pm-8/9am most days but now have to wake him earlier for school. I literally have to drag him out of bed most school days as need to drop him at breakfast club for 7.45am. He has been like this from about 3 months of age (slept through night from 12 weeks). He used to also easily do a 2-3 hour nap on top of that (dropped that once started pre-school). I wish I appreciated it more as I now wish DS2 was more like him; at 9 months old he still hasn't slept through the night not even once! At least one feed and one settle every night!

teacher123 Mon 11-Nov-13 20:52:00

My friend's DS is like this, at 18mo he was regularly sleeping from 6.30pm to 9.30am...

confusedofengland Mon 11-Nov-13 21:56:55

DS1 is a bit like this - he'll sleep 11-12 hours each night, then still have up to 2/3 hour naps after lunch. He is nearly 5. We are fortunate, though, that he can cope well on less sleep than this, too smile

Bedsheets4knickers Mon 11-Nov-13 22:03:25

They are jealous it's plain and simple . My friends little one 3 sleeps until 9.30am often my other friend has a 3 year old who still has a 3 hour nap in the afternoon and still goes bed at 7pm. Ignore and feel smug. U lucky devil x

mumaa Mon 11-Nov-13 22:24:38

Complete jealousy, just ignore them and enjoy your lie ins, I would!

VikingLady Mon 11-Nov-13 22:27:28

Jealousy. I'd have thought quite a few toddlers sleep that long each day when you factor in naps, anyway. I know several 2 to 3 yo who still have 2 naps!

RubyrooUK Mon 11-Nov-13 22:46:47

Yes, this is bitter jealousy from your friends and I share their feelings (as someone who hasn't had a full night's sleep in three years). Enjoy it - I'd kill for a snoozy one! grin

Queenofthedrivensnow Mon 11-Nov-13 22:50:17

Dd1 is like this. She is 4 now. It's her giant brain I tell you it needs the sleep grin

BadgerBumBag Tue 12-Nov-13 00:14:55

Feeling very much like a normal family and completely reassured!

Yes, it must be jealousy, maybe I should start combatting jealousy with extreme smugness (although I don't actually get more sleep than them as I stay up late knowing dd will sleep late smile)

DeWe Tue 12-Nov-13 09:33:34

DD1 was like that. 12-14 hours at night 2-3 in the afternoon. Bliss.

Dd2 was the revenge grin

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