Honest answers please...can a blind person make as good a mom as a fully sighted one?

(70 Posts)
Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 19:56:37

Hi there...just really would appreciate an answer to the q above??

PrincessRomy Tue 24-Sep-13 19:59:04

Erm, my first thought is yes, definitely. Why do you ask, if you don't mind me asking?

Yes - I know a lady blind from birth with a fantastic 26 year old (a good friend of mine). She's raised a lovely daughter who dotes on her.

Yes. Definitely.

Why are you asking?

Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 20:03:56

Because I've just been told that, no matter how hard I try, I'll alwasys be a shit mom, and my kids are going to end up being bullied if they are seen outwith me! Excuse the lack of grammar...heads in la shed and I've hit the merlot on the back of this comment lol...

Bollocks to that.

A mother at dd1's school is severely visually impaired and her kids are great, so is she.

ListWriter Tue 24-Sep-13 20:06:32

I don't see how it makes a difference. Not one of us is perfect, and we all have to try and make the best of all situations. You'll be a good mum because you care so much.

Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 20:11:06

I can see enough to get by, don't get me wrong! She said I'm repressing my kids because, young as they are, they know not to leave cars/shoes*turds around that I could trip over/slip on...>smile Sorry I haven't worked out how to do the smiley con things...instructions too small haha...

Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 20:13:37

Hey the smiley thing went on!! Now if someone can just reply with the text for the wine glass??

Do you love your kids and put their welfare above anything else?

Yes?

Then yes, you are as good a mum as the next mum. All the rest is just 'parenting style', surely?

PS- what a twunt that person must be to say that to you. TWUNT.

3littlewomen Tue 24-Sep-13 20:15:10

DH has a blind dad who has been a very involved parent and much loved. Our DC now adore him also.

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Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 20:16:17

Wtf is a twunt? Ive only just googled cuntpuffin! Xx

NicholasTeakozy Tue 24-Sep-13 20:17:43

Look at Alison Lapper. Ok, she's not blind, but she has no limbs, she's an amazing woman and mother. Please don't let narrow minded idiots put you off.

ExitPursuedByADragon Tue 24-Sep-13 20:18:12

Ffs. I have been on lovely thread with a blind mum with a blind DH and a sighted baby. They cope like anyone else, apart from her guide dog that nicks bread.

Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 20:18:13

wine I only.joined yestermday...and already this site has cheered me up

Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 20:21:56

Lol my 2 year old knows how to get just out og my sigjtline(bout2feet clearly) and then get up to mischief! Oh and update: I'm apparantly faking it for the DLA! Lol worra twunt

You are funny. smile

I can see why this upset you but you need to ignore narrow minded, ignorant people like that person.

I'm afraid you may come across this attitude often and that makes me sad for you. You need to learn to laugh at them I think.

Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 20:23:26

And the award for most typos in a NM post goes to...

alreadytaken Tue 24-Sep-13 20:23:39

so your children are already learning to be thoughtful and kind while her children are learning, from her example, to be unpleasant. I think most people would say the former is preferable and of the two you'd make the better mom.

There will be some things a blind mum may not do well - like sew fancy dress costumes for them. I can't do that either as I'm rubbish at sewing. We all have different strengths and weaknesses.

Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 20:25:47

Ha! They had a blind sale at Dunn Elm...hubby went down to get a replacement for me...said he fancied a blonde this time! Xx

Skrybal Tue 24-Sep-13 20:28:19

TheOne...if u have to be sad for me...be sad for th fact that I'm a massive Cell Block H fan...now that's sad...lol x

lottieandmia Tue 24-Sep-13 20:30:53

Next time some idiot says something like this to you OP, I would ask them if they are aware they are discriminating against a disabled person. Whoever it was who said these things is a bigoted waste of space and you should cut them out of your life! The people I've known in my life who were blind were certainly no less able than anyone else and could sew too. Why on earth would being blind affect parenting? Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Dilidali Tue 24-Sep-13 20:32:15

Don't be silly OP! If I take my glasses off I can't see anything 3-4 metres away, it's all a blur.
I'm a mum, got eyes in the back of my head though.
Rubbish mum indeed. Ignore!
And cheers!

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