I enrolled ds ( nearly 4) into football club thinking it might help his social skills and ability to follow instruction, things that nursery have highlighted he needs extra support with. He's always been a free spirit and it takes him a while to settle into a structured activity but 3 sessions in I am wondering whether it is worth persevering. He spends most of the time running away, ignoring the coaches, playing on his own and generally being off task. It didn't seem to be putting the others off though.
For the first couple of weeks I stayed with him, playing alongside him, and he did manange to stay for 30 mins then he asked to go.last week I tried to observe from a distance but he really wasn't taking part and the main coach was getting cheesed off with going to bring him back to the class ( at one point shouted 'oy - i'm talking to you!) He told me that if ds 'can't handle it' we should leave it and enrol again next term. The idea is that children attend the class on their own after the second session.
Ds does actually like football! I think part of the problem is that the coaches are a bit old school - they work really well with the children who 'get it' but aren't making any effort to engage mine. Plus the main coach is a bit gruff. Tbh, another aspect is i feel so sad and frustrated when I see the others taking part and having fun, and mine totally doing his own thing. It doesn't help when I am aware of a row of parents watching from the gallery above! ( that's my problem, I know).
I want this to be a fun and helpful experience for him - should I just call it quits and look for a less strutured activity/ a more individualised approach or speak to the coaches about involving him a bit more?
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Shall I give up on football club?
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Starlet71 · 22/09/2013 22:06
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