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I always thought I would be the cool mother...

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QueenBeety · 24/06/2006 21:24

and now, just because I like to have say in what my 12 year old is doing I am the bitch mother form hell!!!

Everytime he stays at his best mates he goes to bed at a totally unreasonable hour..last night 5 fucking am....and HE HATES ME BECAUSE I AM MAKING HIM TO TO BED!!!

I hate the fact that bf parents give their kids a freedom I don't give mine and so make me out to be a bitch mother.

agagagagagaga

I just did a 'wait till your father gets home' line

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JanH · 24/06/2006 21:25

Is his best mate the eldest in his house?

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QueenBeety · 24/06/2006 21:26

no youngest and so has older sister who tolk totally inapporprialty

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JanH · 24/06/2006 21:27

QED, I'm afraid, beety.

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JanH · 24/06/2006 21:28

I was bitch mother from hell with DD1 - as time goes by it wears off

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quanglewangle · 24/06/2006 21:29

But it is a special occasion, staying at his mates, exceptional circumstanses and all that. So very different to the homelife of our own dear teenagers.
Stick to your guns.

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QueenBeety · 24/06/2006 21:30

i am so furious and sticking to my guns. My 12 year old is in bed and I am not listening to anything. and I am really cross that he has been allowed to stay up so late. What is the f'ing point???

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JanH · 24/06/2006 21:31

What I'm saying is, beety, by the time DD is 12 your household will be making some other cool mother feel like the bitch mother from hell. It just happens (unless you make your older children live in a different house )

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QueenBeety · 24/06/2006 21:31

ds is screaming and shouting about how much he hates me and is not tired. etc etc...5 am ffs! what the fuck were his parents thinking of?

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JanH · 24/06/2006 21:33

Do you know that they were allowed to stay up late though? We don't stay up until visitors have gone to sleep any more - just assume that they have the sense to go to sleep when they're tired.

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QueenBeety · 24/06/2006 21:35

no, parents went to bed, ds then mucked around with his mate and went into older sisters room to watch dvd's... it is all to young...i am not having it and he will not be allowed to go stay there again for a while.

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JanH · 24/06/2006 21:40

Have the bf to your house instead then, beety - then you can supervise and make them go to bed at a reasonable time. (I do agree that 5am is ludicrous.)

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quanglewangle · 24/06/2006 21:42

But isn't that the whole point of sleep-overs?
That's why I never encouraged them myself as don't have srong enough nerves.

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QueenBeety · 24/06/2006 21:47

bf does not like coming to ours as I don't do silly bed times. sleep overs are not about 5 am. they are about staying with your mate and chatting until 1 ish..imo. at 12 ....

then they can do it regualrly

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crunchie · 24/06/2006 21:50

Beety YOU ARE A COOL MOTHER, IT IS JUST A STAGE.

I am dreading that age too tbh No matter what you do you will be a bitchmother and you will never win. Keep saying this A LOT for the next 10 years honey

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QueenBeety · 24/06/2006 21:53

sweet heart, having screamed and shouted at me about how much he hates me he came down and asked for a hug and a kiss....

thanks C

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Lemmingswife · 24/06/2006 21:57

I agree with crunchie, beety.
You sound like a great Mum, but 12 year olds are impossible to deal with at times.
I have a friend with a DD who has just turned 12 & she is having the most horrendous time with her atm.
I also remember my sister turning at this age & really challanging my parents. (I of course was perfect!)
5am sounds absolutely ridiculous.
You stick to your guns. You are a cool Mum!

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Lemmingswife · 24/06/2006 21:58

Ahhhhh.

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sallystrawberry · 24/06/2006 22:03

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noddyholder · 24/06/2006 22:07

My ds is 12 and goes to bed at 9.30 but not at weekends or on sleepovers He is still up now but I think that is ok at 12 but not on a school night

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sowoffended · 24/06/2006 22:18

Just had a run-in with my almost 12 year old and threatened him with cancelling his trip to Sweden next week if he didn't do as he was told.

Really stupid I know, but thankfully he's (eventually) taken me seriously and he's now doing as he was told.

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QueenBeety · 24/06/2006 22:18

noddy but 5?

i let ds saty up until 12 ish osme weekends but 12 is a treat

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sowoffended · 24/06/2006 22:18

and I think 5 am is ludicrous too.

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brimfull · 24/06/2006 22:47

god my dd 14yrs had a sleepover and the girls had all decided to stay up all night!

I must have been hated by all the mums.The girls (all 8 ) were squeeling and screeching all night.I was ready to murder them in the morning.Never again.

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Tortington · 24/06/2006 23:06

accept the title with pride

its your job to be bitch mother from hell - cool mothers are completely ineffectual and in the long run damage their children with their lack of dicipline and disregard for their childrens welfare for either an easy life - or becuase they want to be their kids friend.

well i'm not my kids friends i am their mother and if they dont like it
TOUGH
NOW GET TO BED OR ITS 9 PM TOMORROW!!!!!!!

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QueenBeety · 24/06/2006 23:31

i am with you custardo.

Differnt if it is once in a moon mparty type thing,..very difficlut to sor thtem all to sleep at a reasonsble hour. but just staying over at mates, is different

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