It's getting serious now

(56 Posts)
plannedshock Fri 06-Sep-13 20:07:31

I've posted before on my baby not sleeping but now it's just getting ridiculous, I'm completely lost, my dp cried telling me he can't hack it I nearly can't take anymore.
I've tried her in her cot, just screams and cries all night, in Moses basket exactly the same so the lesser of evils is in bed with me, but it takes so much to get her to sleep.
Every night we have to endure hours of endless screaming literally every night without fail. She won't be put down at all, now I can't even sit down holding her I literally get so frustrated I could rip my own fucking hair out.
I'm not doing the cranial thing, silent reflux? Maybe, I just don't know anymore. I'm not enjoying motherhood at all now every whinge and cry just goes straight through me now I'm so so sick of it. Can she really be absolutely fine just not a sleeper? When I say she screams I mean like someone has flicked a switch to 100miles an hr instantly for hrs. I think I'm going to go crazy, or my dp is going to lose it. hmmconfused

LEMisdisappointed Fri 06-Sep-13 20:09:45

Can you contact cry-sis?

stillenacht Fri 06-Sep-13 20:10:07

My DSis had the same she took her DS to an osteopath. Two sessions later he is so much better and sleeping through the night. Hope it gets better soon.

LEMisdisappointed Fri 06-Sep-13 20:10:47

Sorry that seems blunt posting on phone.

What do you mean you're not doing the cranial thing?

My DD was like this. It's awful you have my sympathy.

We did cranial osteopath and it made a difference to her and therefore us.

tethersend Fri 06-Sep-13 20:13:02

How old is she?

plannedshock Fri 06-Sep-13 20:18:38

She's 5mths, I just don't feel comfortable with the...is it cranial osteopathy?!? My dp has now taken her screaming out in the pram shes been screaming since 7pm. Feel like such a helpless idiot. Do some babies just hate sleeping?!?!

plannedshock Fri 06-Sep-13 20:22:13

What is cry-sis?

BonaDea Fri 06-Sep-13 20:22:30

Try the osteopathy. Honestly they barely touch the baby and it really might help.

Have you spoken to GP / health visitor?

mistlethrush Fri 06-Sep-13 20:26:26

DS, on a bad night, started at 7pm and went on until 5am. There was the odd 5mins off, but it was basically non-stop screaming.

Cranial osteopathy sorted it.

I know some people think it is 'wooo' but I go to an osteopath when I need to - and this seemed a sensible course to at least try for us....

Crysis is a helpline. Worth a call. Have you seen your GP? I know what you mean I felt the same about the osteopathy.
From memory you can't start the sleep clinic until thy are 6 months but talk to your HV. Is she bottle fed? Can your mum or MIL take her for a night so you can get a break? I really feel for you we had a bedtime screamer it's not fun.

plannedshock Fri 06-Sep-13 20:30:20

No family here and she's breastfed, I think I'm going to visit the gp and speak to the cry-sis people. When she's bad I can understand how some women just snap, I do not know how women do it alone.
How can something so small completely frazzle you?

LEMisdisappointed Fri 06-Sep-13 20:32:12

www.cry-sis.org.uk/ They have a phoneline too x

Wibblypiglikesbananas Fri 06-Sep-13 20:44:57

Ok, have you tried her sleeping on her side? Propped in place with rolled up towels? Honestly, once DD could turn herself into this position, rather than being on her back, it was like a switch flicked. Obviously all the guidelines say back is best - but my GP actually recommended this! Could be worth discussing with your GP?

Basic things - do you have a night time routine, eg bath/baby massage/music so she knows when it's time to sleep (I'm guessing you do). Is there anyone who could give you and DP a bit of respite during the day just so you could catch up on a bit of sleep? Even a neighbour to walk her round for an hour or so?

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Fri 06-Sep-13 20:46:17

I know it is awful but some babies are just twats. Noisy little twats who scream and scream for no reason until 4am each night. I am making light of it of course, but rest assured that most stop by 4 or so months at the latest. I know it seems a long way off but hang in there.

kerala Fri 06-Sep-13 20:51:14

It's a nightmare poor you had the same. Can you feed while lying down so she feeds to sleep and you can leave her sleeping next to you dp will have to go elsewhere. This helped me. It will get better honestly I found 5 months was the lowest point x

WithConfidence Fri 06-Sep-13 20:52:37

God I feel for you, ds was like that. Where you are at was the worst though and he did get better on his own.

What stopped me totally losing it was an ergo sling and pacing forever up and down. Earplugs / ipod if you need some distance from it.

(My friend is a chiropractor and even he thinks CO is woo, so we didn't bother chucking hundreds of pounds away.)

peachypips Fri 06-Sep-13 20:53:10

Are you certain of your milk supply? Could she be hungry? I think you def need to get help. As above, cry-sis or gp or hv or something!

Nothing helpful to add except:
1. You are not useless or an idiot;
2. You are doing everything you can;
3. Anyone in your position would be tearing their hair out;
4. In a few weeks/months this will be over and you will be enjoying motherhood again.

cantthinkofagoodone Fri 06-Sep-13 20:56:22

Oh I feel for you. I've been there.

I don't know what changed whether it be weaning or becoming mobile at 6.5 months but ds became so much happier at that time.

At 5 months teething is a huge candidate so try all the remedies.

How are naps - overtiredness is awful and so easy to happen when they take a lot of work to fall asleep. Try to start settling for naps after 90 minutes awake time.

Walks in the pram are your friend.

This is an awful phase. It will pass. You will not be walking the floor in 5 years to get her to sleep.

cantthinkofagoodone Fri 06-Sep-13 20:58:14

Earplugs are awesome. They allowed for one full lie in a week, amazing.

Queenmarigold Fri 06-Sep-13 20:58:24

I had similar. Gave a top up ff at 11pm, sorted it until 5am. Not great but bearable. You have my sympathy op

If you have a teacher in your area the BabyCalm sleep workshop in great. Cry-sis ime are very pro CC/ CIO, so depends if that's your thing.

JenBobble Fri 06-Sep-13 21:13:27

My friend had a baby who cried constantly and it turned out he had a water infection which hardly had any symptoms except for the crying. I haven't seen ur previous posts so don't know if you've already been for tests or not. If ur baby is in pain they are going to let you know all the time.

You need help - you already know that stressed parents don't help a stressed baby. Hope you get this sorted soon... X

plannedshock Fri 06-Sep-13 21:18:51

Property-that's what I needed to hear I think, that some just are! That means there's nothing wrong shes just 1/2 owl.
Thank you everyone sometimes you just need to get it out get a few fresh ideas and tomorrow is another day. It just gets so hard and it's never how you thought it would be, if they are tired they sleep, oh how I now laugh at my naivety!
It's when my dp cried I just thought its too much and I can't fix it.

Have you taken her to the doctor to get her ears / throat etc checked?
Talk us through her day? What's your routine like? Or what passes for it given she's a crier? smile

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