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When to put baby in cot/own room?(31 Posts)
At what age did you put your babies in their cots, and also what age when you put them in their own room?
I know it's recommended babies should stay in your room for the first six months
My 13 week old is such a good sleeper; she sleeps from 7pm until 6am, and on occasion I have to wake her up; she's almost outgrown her moses basket and she stirs in the night which keeps me awake. She has a lovely sleep (as does her daddy!), but every little movement I wake up and don't sleep more than 3 hours at a time!
We moved dd into her own room at around 3 months old. It had got to the stage where we were all disturbing each other! We use a motion sensor in the cot and have all doors open. In the day she naps in the Moses basket downstairs.
Our dd had to have a pavlik harness due to a hip problem so couldn't sleep in a Moses basket. So from 6 weeks she was in a cot in her own room. She was sleeping till morning by then anyway. Sorry SID guidelines but we couldn't fit a cot in our room.
In room with us until gone 6 months, as I understand it they need to hear your breathing to regulate their own. He outgrew his crib so we've had to squeeze his cotbed in our room but was worth it for my peace of mind. I'm lucky in that I'm a fairly tolerant sleeper and can tune most things out, and only really wake for crying or high pitched alarms. Were I sleep deprived I may well move him out early. In terms of daytime naps we've conditioned him to sleep on a thick blanket, this way when we're visiting relatives etc he can comfortably sleep on the floor. I know that sounds odd but blanket is very very thick, more like a cushion really and can fit in buggy so I can take it anywhere. He is a big baby that hates being confined so sleeping in buggy and carseat are not options
I'm really meh about the SIDS guidelines TBH. As long as you're not smoking or drinking or having them in your bed without proper precautions (I understand you can get side-cots for safe co-sleeping) they will be fine.
Same as Seb101. They were in their own room from about 3 weeks (the room is next to ours and we had the door open). When first born they were in a little basket in the hallway outside our room! I'm a light sleeper and wake with any baby noises/snuffles and that would have been a disaster for me! I was confident that they would be fine. Was the right decision for our family. Also meant me and DH could go to bed and talk and use our own bathroom without worrying about disturbing the baby.
Also, there comes a time when you are disturbing THEM at night!
My baby went into her own room at 2 weeks old for both day and night sleeping/naps. It was the right decision for our family, regardless of SIDS advice.
Didn't bother with the moses basket upstairs this time round - DD2 went straight into a sidecarred cot.
DD1 - Moses into sidecarred cot around 3 months, cot side on and cot away from the side of the bed around 5 1/2 months and into own room at 6 1/2 months.
DD2 will be later since she'll have to go in with her sister and I don't fancy having both of them awake in the dead of night and DD2's not sleeping through yet.
veni DH sleeps through too lol...but I might give it a try sleeping a few hours downstairs, I'm sure much to DH's dismay
niffer & purr Why didn't I think of earplugs?! Another good idea I will try.
creature DD is already at the other side of the room, I still hear every little burp, trump and yelp!
Thank you for your help people, I will try the above first. When she gets too big her cot can temporarily come into our room.
DD1 outgrew the Moses basket at about 3 or 4 months and we moved her into her own room before that, so probably 3 months. Like others say I was so wired to her every noise I was barely sleeping even when she was, and I worried about getting to her quickly when she woke so she wouldn't disturb DH. DD2 is in a cot next to me now at 13 weeks and still waking at least 3 times a night, and DH is in the spare room. I am less on edge this time so we are fine for now and I hope to get to 6 months with her in the room with me.
For daytime I am only just able to put her down once she's asleep. If I want to rest I put her in the cot, and now DD1 is at home I put DD2 in the pushchair, flat, downstairs. Pushchair is good as well in case they sleep longer than you think they will and you have to go out, ime
DD was in her Moses basket for 2 months, 1 month in her crib in our room, 2 months of co-sleeping, 1 more month in the crib. I use the word 'sleep' in loose sense
We found the last 2 months the hardest. She began to be very disturbed by the light/noise downstairs from 4 months onwards. So, we put her down from 7pm upstairs with DH & I taking alternate evenings to sit in our bedroom with her. It was so nice to sit down TOGETHER for the evening. A long 8 weeks!
Still with us at nearly 18 months . But that's laziness on my part, she never sleeps through so it's easier for me (and our house is on three floors, so when she
finally does move she'll be on a different floor!).
We kept DD in til just over 5 months. She was too big for the Moses basket and the cot wouldn't fit in our room.
I would aim for 6 months unless logistically impossible.
Didn't have room in our bedroom for a cot, so once both dcs grew out of their basket at 8 and 10 weeks (I have enormous babies), it was in their own room.
However, as I was bfing, I spent many, many nights in the rocking chair, with a baby attached to me. Dd more than ds.
I would not recommend with winter babies (bitter), as you spend an awful lot of time cold. Mind you, it does mean you don't nod off.
OP have you considered sleeping elsewhere? Not a long term solution but since your DD sleeps though your DH being in the room would satisfy the SIDS guidelines and you could catch a decent snooze in spare room/on sofa? Maybe even just a couple of times a week to keep you sane?
Put my DD in a cot about 4 months. Then moved her into her room about 7 months. I loved her being in with us. Cried every time I went to bed for about a week!
9 months and he's still not now. But then I love having him close by, it doesn't cause me any issues. You're going to get as many answers as people so I agree with others re reading SIDS guidance, also look at the ISIS sleep website maybe, and make the decision that based on the evidence suits your family.
At 10 weeks....such a fidget and noisy sleeper that it was really affecting my sleep. I should say that I am sometimes back and forth trying to settle him so it isn't a complete solution but if yours is a great sleeper it will probably be really nice to have some of your own zzzzzz back!
I should add that I had PND, was barely sleeping and really low, and this kept me sane. I had a go with earplugswhen he was still in our room but was more bothered about not being able to him at all
dh not hearing him
Same as Woopedo, 12 weeks. He was a good sleeper and I found I slept better without him in the room. We did a dream feed about 11pm and we kept doors open between the two rooms so I could go in if neccessary (which it never was other than for a 5.30am feed int he early days. Was so nice to be able to get ready for bed with light on and have a chat at bedtime too!
dd slept in the reclined pushchair and ds slept in the carrycot bit of the travel system and then the reclined pushchair when he grew out of the carrycot
Just wanted to add, SIDS guidance means babies should sleep in the same room as other people for daytime naps as well as nighttime. Currently my DD naps in her Moses basket which is easily transferable from upstairs to down, but she is going to be too big for it soon. I can't very well carry a cot downstairs every morning. What do other people do? Travel cot perhaps?
Ours is 15 months and still in our room. She won't be in a separate room from me in the day, so I think she's a way off separating at night.
just need to sort out the hourly wake ups first
DS stayed with us until just shy of 6 months when he suddenly decided he hated his crib. We had no room for his cot in the bedroom so he had to go into his own room. He's been in about a month now and I'm only just starting to sleep better, initially I slept worse because I kept going to check on him expecting him to wake up scared.
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Make a decision based on the needs of your family and the SIDS guidelines. My 9 week old DD is so horrendously noisy at night that I have been driven to tears by sleeplessness. Last night I put ear plugs in at 5am and slept til 8am, first block of three hours without squeaking, snorting, snoring, the occasional quack, since she was born. Will be putting them in at 11pm tonight. As far as I know that follows SIDS guidelines but in a way that doesn't severely impact my health.
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