I don't know what to do. My lovely, calm, sensitive, kind, happy, bright, eloquent DS has been replaced by an incredibly angry, frustrated, obstinate oversensitive creature who refuses to do anything at all & is being a nightmare. I'm in tears every day.
He is rude, defiant, he threatens to run away, he says he's never able to do what he wants to do (e.g. on Friday, he played out for an hour with his friends... I called him in & he had a massive screaming tantrum about never being allowed to do anything. I pointed out that he HAD been doing something he wants to do but that didn't help.) I try to take him places - to play crazy golf, have an ice cream, strawberry picking & we spend time together at home chatting & reading etc.
At bedtime, he gets up 4, 5, 6 times... I can't stop him. I know I need to have boundaries but I don't know what to do. How do I stop him coming out? He doesn't even make an excuse, he just gets up & wanders around the house, despite knowing I'll be cross. He goes out of his way to create problems where he will end up being told off, then he cries that it's not fair.
It stems from various things including his father leaving him when he was a baby - he lives overseas now & sees DS a couple of times a year. My ex left us this year, after 3 years together & DS was devastated. I've been very ill over the past 18 months or so & suffer chronic pain & fatigue. I try really hard not to let my illness have a big impact on DS but it does affect our lives.
I am doing my very best to remain calm but I can't do it. Today, I told DS that I was going to call his aunty and tell her to come and get him because it's so awful. I don't want to say things like that.
We have involvement from Young Carers and now CAMHS. Their advice was for me to do even more nurturing things, like me brushing his hair rather than asking him to do it himself. I've read & used Lovebombing & a book about parenting a bright but challenging child but I'm lost. I hate this.
I'm exhausted. WTF do I do?
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Struggling so much with DS (7)
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Grockle · 22/07/2013 02:48
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