I'm about to have a DD, and DS (aged 5) is pretty excited. I'm trying to manage his expectations (she's not going to do much other than cry/sleep/poo/feed), and make it feel like it's good for him (he's got a new room, with big boy bunk beds). But I'm worried about what to expect, and how to make the experience as positive as possible (he gets a lot of affection and attention from me, i don't know how he's going to cope, bless him!). Most of the advice I can find on introducing a new baby to a household is relevant to toddlers....does anyone have any tips for a 5 year old?
I had ds 4 1/2 when ds2 arrived I was so grateful for friends who brought him a little gift along with present for baby ( mini Lego figures and boxes were big hit) I also hid as many presents as u could before he got home from school ! Maybe keep a few little gifts to slip him if baby is getting lots !
Otherwise has been brilliant ds1 has learnt to play on his own a lot more and has been really good at distracting / entertaining ds2 when needed !
So far so good ladies! DS absolutely adores her...always kissing her & wanting to hold her. Mind you, she's only a week old! Imagine he'll get bored soon, but thanks for your tips which have got us if to a good start.
One thing I would say-and this advice is not really age specific- but I remember reading to prepare DD ahead of time and talk about what happens when baby arrives so we got a few story books. The story books all had a part about the older sibling coming into the hospital to meet their new sibling and we had also been given the advice of letting DD meet baby before others.What we didnt bank on was DS having aspirated meconium during delivery and staying in special care along with me as I was breastfeeding for 5 days after he was born. Siblings are not allowed to visit their as part of infection control so I had a few extremely short visits with DD in the hospital lobby during this time.I found that so hard and I know she did too-being away from mummy as well as knowing she had a new brother and not being able to see him. I suppose my advice then is just make sure you don't focus too much on details of how that will happen just in case it doesnt go to plan-not that you should try and prepare them for every possible scenario but maybe just focus more on when baby's home without much detail if that makes sense. Sorry maybe that sounds like really odd advice but I just know it was something I thought after I wished we had done. Good luck I'm sure it will be fine!