Am I expecting too much?

[StarRose]

My almost 7 yr old DD is driving me mad. She seems to be unable to do anything with it being demonstrated, repeated, spelt out to her. And when she can't do something, she ends up crying/screaming, which I'm sure is a habit and put on, but very, very wearing. This weekend she had one piece of homework, her reading book, spellings, and some letters to write. We were at home all day today and I explained what she had to do. I then left it to her to get on with it as I'm tired of nagging her (homework over half term saw to that). By bedtime she had done part of one thing. She then needed reminding several times in the shower to wash herself, rather than just stand there with the water running over her. And then when she couldn't remember where she put her glasses... that was too much and I couldn't help but moan at her. I hate moaning. But I don't know what to do with her. I'm not really sure what I'm asking, I'm just so tired of it all...

[StarRose]

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[NeoMaxiZoomDweebie]

No it's annoying I know. My 8 year old is the same. The shower thing is very normal and the homework...it sounds quite a lot for a child to do in one day tbh. How much notice are you given? I would do one of those per day...spellings one day, homework the next, letter writing the day after...not all in one day.

I show my DD how many minutes she has for her hw....and she knows that once those minutes are up, she will go to school without the work done and probably have to do it at playtime.

I also offer rewards if her teacher offers one...so in DDs school they have a pebble system...one or two pebbles are given for good work...if she gets a pebble, I give her a pound.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

Yes, I think you are expecting too much. My DS is 2 years older and he just wouldn't be able to organise himself in the way you describe. Its only since he's been in year 4 that the school have told us to try and let them decide when they do their homework and try and leave them too it. What I do is something like this, "you've got x to do, how about we do it now, then we can do y this afternoon?". I then stay in the same room while he does it, like yesterday he had to do sone reading and writing so I just sat on the other sofa and read.

Agree that is a lot of homework to expect a child to do in one day. Is that a weeks worth? Could you do it over a few evenings?

My DS regularly looses his glasses too and the shower thing, well that's just what kids do. Try something like "which shower gel would you like tonight?" And pass it to her then talk about what you are going to do next so that hopefully she gets the hint