My dd is 6 and in Y1. She is in a single form entry school with only 10 girls in the class. She gets on well with all the girls, gets invited round to play etc but has become in thrall to a QB. When she started in reception she became particular friends with the QB and girl X. They largely played well together but there were some problems with QB and girl X and the teacher was very careful to try and micro-manage the triangle. My dd seemed to be very happy and unaffected by the issues.
Since the start of the year my dd has reported various bits and pieces but as she is quite a sensitive character I tried to deal with it by keeping it light ? trying to get her not to take things too much to heart.
Things have now escalated, examples of recent behaviour:
Telling my dd to say things to other children (usually not kind things); telling her to play what games she wants to play/who will be which characters etc ; telling her that she is fat; criticising her food choices at lunch; telling her that she can?t do things as well as QB can; telling her that her possessions are rubbish; telling her that she is showing off; telling her not to tell me (grrrrrr) and the list goes on??
And my dd goes along with it all!!! She seems to be feeling under a lot of pressure now and I am concerned for her self-esteem. We have been trying to come up with strategies for her, things to say, ways to respond etc but she always loses her nerve, crying and saying that QB will shout at her. She has started to get very upset over this and so I contacted her teacher ? who is being very supportive and trying lots of things in the classroom to help.
I can?t talk to QB?s mum. We are friendly and I know she would be mortified but I also think it could make things worse for my dd. I?d rather that was my absolute last option.
I?d really like to hear if anyone has any ideas of what we can be doing at home as nothing I say seems to work and I?ve run out of ideas
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Can anyone suggest any ways I can help my daughter stand up to her friend?
innertiger · 13/05/2013 21:47
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