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When did you put baby in own room?(77 Posts)
Just wanted to check what others have done re putting baby in own room.
Ds2 is now 8 weeks and am experimenting tonight with him in his own room. I know recommendation is 6months hence me asking you all what you did.
When I had ds1 we lived in 1 bed house til he was 18months and he was terrible sleeper and even worse when he got own room in new house as was used to us so didn't want same thing happening with ds2 but is this too early??
Plus am doing it to get dh back in bed as he currently sleeps on sofa to avoid the noisy night time feeds so thought if I do them in ds2 room he won't be so disturbed.
Guess I'm looking for reassurance that its ok!
Mine were in their own room from day 1.
Does anyone know, is the reduced SIDS risk related to adults waking if they stop breathing or baby continuing to breath because they can hear others in the room breathing?
I ask because
1. I am a really deep sleeper & not sure DD not breathing would wake me
2. when she moves from our room she will be sharing with DD1 - so not on her own as such
10 days, both of them . We are all really light sleepers, and kept waking each other up.
Well he was 6 years old by the time we put him in his own room and he actually stayed in it.
By that time I was begining to get worried that I'd have to sleep with sharp knees and elbows digging in to me until he left home.
But one night, magically, and for the first time ever, he fell asleep, stayed asleep and didn't wake up til the morning. Hallefuckingluyah!!
I gave birth to a true insomniac.
I say go with what pleases you best, but don't fall over with shock if your child turns out to have a strong opinion of their own on the matter.
Our son is one and he's still in with us-he is a very restless sleeper and we're stil bf so it's more convenient.
2 weeks for the eldest, 6 days for the youngest. I just cannot sleep with a baby in the same room.
My decision, I looked at all the evidence and decided that since we had no other high risk factors for SIDS, I felt comfortable with it. But it's a very individual decision.
DD1 at 8 weeks - hated her moses basket and slept really well in a proper cot plus was into the next door bedroom so about 7 feet away. 3 months with DD2 [she slept better in the moses basket, new house so the bedroom was much further away and also hadn't booted DD1 into a proper bed yet]
Our DS was in his own room at 10 weeks as my hubby is a really light sleeper. I bought one of the sensor monitor thingys for peace of mind. I completely understand regarding the risk of SIDS, but im quite a sound sleeper and wouldnt have heard him if he had stopped breathing even if he was right next to me. I nought a tommee tippee one and it was brilliant. will def use it with number 2.
As long as the mattress fits his cot properly (no gabs he could get wedged down) and no extra bedding etc.
The "back to bed" campaign has helped reduce the number of cot death. Always put your wee one down on their back. Dummys help reduce the risk of SIDS.
And most importantly if you and your DH are happy to put him in his own room then go for it.
Are you bfing? Only ask as I would be pretty miffed at my DH getting every night off to sleep through while I was waking twice.
Anyways - 5months here. As soon as we had a week of 7am-7pm, in she went. There was no way I was getting up and traipsing room to room at every feed!
We did follow the guidance with DS, but I have been pondering this in light of last weeks co sleeping warning- does anyone know the stats on how many cot deaths actually happen in a cot?
My only experience of SIDS happened on a sofa - a friend of mine with a baby a similar age to DS, and it was absolutely horrible, but I slightly class that as a horrendous accident with an exhausted parent.
I believe that everyone needs to look at their own situation and make a decision for themselves, rather than blindly following guidance, partly as noisy babies can lead to exhausted parents which can lead to other problems.
Oh, and I remember reading that a loud ticking clock can help in baby's room.
Moved dt2 out at 4 months, dt1 was preventing all of us from sleeping... She slept much better and did 10-11h nights from then. 5 yrs ago we weren't told to keep them in with us til 6 months, hv approved the decision... But we followed rest of guidance, slept on a wedge at end of cot in a grobag
about 8 months, couldn't be bothered to go get him to feed and SIDS is about them hearing you breath not the other way round. If he wakes and won't settle we bring him into our bed though
What I don't understand is how lo can hear you breathing if cot is at end of the bed? Surely they can only hear you if you are cosleeping which we have now been told leads to a higher instance of SIDS...
Was planning to move 10 week old dd to her own cot tomorrow night but not sure now. Problem is once you have read a thread like this it is hard not to feel guilty if you do make a different decision and therefore harder to follow your motherly instincts!
DS went into his own room at about 4mo as he out grew his Moses basket.
He also rolls onto his front in the cot which was initially terrifying due to the guidance that they should sleep on their back but he persistently rolls over and he is such a loud snorer (like father like son!), I can hear him down the hall anyway.
I think if you are happy with it, then the time is right....Trust your motherly instinct.
The guidance changes every few years about so many aspects of child care....my mother was advised to put my older bro on his front and then me on my back, just 2 yrs later!
I didn't move DD into her room until she was 1 and had outgrown her crib. If I could have fit her cot bed in my room I would have kept her in there longer... But then she was a completely sound sleeper and slept through from about 7 weeks so it was easy. I just loved waking up in the night and seeing her there next to me.
Expecting DD2 and will keep her in for as long as possible too...
DS1- 4 years
DS2- He's only 11 months so no time soon.
4 weeks. He was noisy, we were noisy and disturbance all round. Slept really well since. He is 19 months old now and averages about 12 hours sleep every night with the odd disruption if he has a cold or teething. Wonderful!
DS - at 3 wks (he was a noisy sleeper)
DD - at 4 months (she wasn't)
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Your baby ,your choice. Go with your instinct and if putting him in his own room feels wrong then just move him back. My DS co slept until he was 4 yrs old. But not in our bed until he was 7mnths old. We all had a good nights rest. In fact when he was very ill with chicken pox at 2 yrs old it was a real shock to the system having disturbed sleep for the first time.
Because I would wake when he started to stir for a feed he would never cry at night. It is very important for attachment that a baby knows you are there when they need you during their first year.
We never planned to co sleep. It just felt right for us. DS was prem and had problems at birth. We just slept better when we could hear him breathing.
My ds is 3.5 months and i intend to wait until at least 6 months because of the SIDs risk. DS outgrew his moses at 8wks and his cot wouldnt fit in our bedroom so he now sleeps in a travel cot.
Having said this, we did start putting him to bed upstairs in our room a couple of hours before us at 9 weeks because he wouldnt fall asleep in the noise downstairs. (Although we are currently debating bringing him back down due to him decided he doesnt want to be up there on his own anymore and considering SIDs risks).
Dd was about 2.5 years when we put her in her own room but if she ever needs me or wants a night with us I'm quite laid back about it.
She's 4 now and most nights she sleeps 7-7 in her own bed. The odd night she will ask if she can sleep with me and I don't mind as I do love a good cuddle.
Due with dc2 in 5 days and will probably just see how it goes again.
I wouldn't before 6 months personally, but for me it was easier to have dd in with meso I could breastfeed.
You just have to do what works for you and your family.
Dd was 3.5....years....(glances over at DS, who was three last month and is still 'in with us'. Gets coat, closes door behind herself.)
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