Controlled crying

(46 Posts)
Chiponshouldermom Fri 19-Apr-13 20:38:26

I'm interested to hear from those who have done CC. If you were successful, how many nights did it take?

LouBeee Fri 19-Apr-13 21:35:02

1 night at aged 7.5 months. 1 hour and 25 minutes of crying then shut up and went to sleep. Slept through for the next 3 nights and then for most nights after that and I never fed him in the night again.

Chiponshouldermom Sat 20-Apr-13 17:41:24

Thanks LouBee. It's taking a little longer with us but seeing improvements every night. We are on night number 4 tonight. DD nearly slept through last night.

MooneyRara Sat 20-Apr-13 18:11:39

How old is your baby?

Chiponshouldermom Sat 20-Apr-13 18:24:15

She's 8 1/2 mths

Chiponshouldermom Sat 04-May-13 20:22:48

Just in case anyone has searched 'controlled crying' and has come across this thread ... I wanted to answer my own question...

It took 6 nights and she slept through. It has been v hard but the results are astounding. I wish I'd done it months ago!

PleaseLetsGoToSleep Sat 04-May-13 20:58:51

My 18 month old ds still doesn't sleep through the night, we did go through a period of a couple of months where he slept through 6 nights out of 7. But that's completely gone out the window. He wakes up because he's hungry/thirsty and so I feed him.
My question is, do you know why your los were waking up at night? Was it hunger? Could CC be the answer to getting my ds to sleep through?
I've never wanted to do it, but crikey I'm tired. He's 18 months fgs, why does he still need milk at night?
Thanks

Gooders79 Sat 04-May-13 21:54:10

We did with ds1 at 15 mo, I was back at work, pregnant with ds2 and exhausted from 2-3 wakes a night with prolonged resettling. Night 1 asleep in 15 minutes and by night 3 no requirement to go back in, improved settling for naps and now points to cot at bedtime. It's the best thing we ever did but I think we were all ready for if by this point which makes a great difference. Ultimately I think ds1 difficulty was not bring able to self settle, as soon as he learnt what to do he started sleeping very well, now sleeps consistently 7-6 without any hassle st bedtime.

LittleMissLucy Sun 05-May-13 02:22:31

We did it early on around 4 months. It took two separate nights, and after that - done.

readyforno2 Sun 05-May-13 02:35:51

Trying right now... On night two. Tonight's worse than last night.
I'll report back in a couple of days

MummyJetsetter Sun 05-May-13 11:48:39

Pleaseletsgotosleep, my ds started waking at about this age and he'd been sleeping through from. 8 weeks! He was hungry so I introduced supper of cereal an hour before bed and it did the job. x

PleaseLetsGoToSleep Sun 05-May-13 15:11:09

Thanks mummyjetsetter, will have to try that. x

Chiponshouldermom Mon 06-May-13 18:16:52

My DD was always cuddled and rocked to sleep, she therefore didn't know how to self settle. I can recommend Ferber's book 'how to solve your child's sleep problems'. It was v informative and v helpful. Good luck if you are currently trying or thinking of trying CC

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LovelyWeatherForDucks Tue 07-May-13 08:49:41

Mini hijack - those of you that used controlled crying successfully, did you do it for naps as well as nightime sleep?

Ragwort Tue 07-May-13 08:53:44

One night grin.

Regarding naps - I would put my DS in his own cot/moses basket at a set time and leave him to sleep, he would grizzle for a few minutes but I would leave him alone.

I had a child a lot later than my friends and never knew all about this 'cuddling a child to sleep' or similar - I just assumed I would put my child in his cot/basket ...... leave the room and he would fall asleep.

It wasn't until I used Mumsnet that I realised there was so much angst about getting a child to sleep grin.

For anyone reading this for advice ignore the above comment about doing it at four months. Poor baby.

Six months is the youngest you should try it.

Geraldandhisgiraffe Tue 07-May-13 09:06:24

Feeding cereal at 8 weeks goes against all advice too!

MummyJetsetter Tue 07-May-13 12:06:04

Geraldineandhisgiraffe please look back on the ceral comment and note who this was directed at.

By the way I did crying to sleep with my ds and it took 2 nights. It wasn't exactly the proper cc method though as every time I went in his room he started from square 1 and he knew I would come back so just kept doing it. So I listened at his door, it was torture to listen to but had to be done, the first night it took him 1 hr 20 to go to sleep, the next night it was 40 mins and he slept without crying after that. He woke up his normal happy self in the mornings so it didn't damage him, he was definitely just trying to be controlling.

LittleMissLucy Tue 07-May-13 20:01:50

LovelyWeather - no, just two nights, that was it. No naps. No crying at nap time (is that normal...?)

readyforno2 Fri 10-May-13 23:15:13

Sorry. Never got round to updating.
We had a pretty horrendous 2nd night (Saturday) but Sunday ds didn't wake up at all.. 11 1/2 hrs! Mon and Tuesday pretty much the same and Wednesday he woke at 3. Last night 6:30-6:55. Really can't complain.
Best of luck op

readyforno2 Fri 10-May-13 23:15:19

Sorry. Never got round to updating.
We had a pretty horrendous 2nd night (Saturday) but Sunday ds didn't wake up at all.. 11 1/2 hrs! Mon and Tuesday pretty much the same and Wednesday he woke at 3. Last night 6:30-6:55. Really can't complain.
Best of luck op

readyforno2 Fri 10-May-13 23:15:37

blush Oops..

Seb101 Sat 11-May-13 13:36:40

I disagree that you can't do cc at 4mths. Very harsh to say 'poor baby'
When they are this young, it often only takes a few mins of crying and they fall asleep. There is nothing wrong with putting a young baby in cot, leaving them to moan/cry for 5 mins. The earlier they learn to self sooth, the better. If crying continued, I'd go in, check all was ok, and leave again.

A couple of minutes then fallin asleep isn't exactly controlled crying is it hmm sometimes ds needs a little cry before he falls asleep but that's completely different. Even advocates of cc say six months is the earliest you should do it.

Lala29 Sat 11-May-13 20:52:24

We did it with DD from birth pretty much. She was sleeping through the night from 8 weeks and settling herself to sleep really well after about 4 weeks.
She is now 19 months and I think it's a lot more cruel starting at this sort of age when they are very aware of everything around them and have got used to doing things a certain way.

Everyone who has ever met DD says what a happy, loving and confident little girl she is. This has been the case since she was very tiny. I really resent people who use words like "that poor baby". How dare you say that to another mum?!

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