Our dd is 2.4 years old. She has always been very fun loving, and generally a really good little girl.
Recently she seems to be very sensitive and getting upset really easily, but this is then leading to ongoing behaviour.
I appreciate that part of this is just her age, so I am trying to gloss over tantrums and reward good behaviour.
We have a 14 week old ds who she adores thankfully, and is always really sweet and affectionate to. But I also realise this is a huge change in her little world and that her insecurity with the new situation may be coming out in other ways.
The main problem we are currently having is with bath time. She used to adore her bath and would get upset to be taken out. For the first 5 weeks after ds was born she point blank refused to get in it. Eventually she got back in, with him in it, and seemed to be loving it but now is refusing again. It was been around 5 weeks or so now I think. We have tried just leaving her, trying to get her in with her cousin or friends, new toys, having a shower instead, having a bath/shower with me or dh. Nothing is working.
Dh was bringing her swimming every weekend so she was at least getting a shower there and would go in it there although not at home. But for the past few weeks she has refused to go swimming, again she used to love swimming.
Last Saturday she cut her finger. It was only a tiny cut but probably the first time she has been cut and seen blood. She was hysterical for about two hours, it was horrible. For the past week now she has refused to use her hands and has them permanently clenched. She is also refusing to wash them. She is still letting me brush her teeth and wash her face at least!
So I am having to feed her etc. she will occasionally use her thumb and forefinger on the non-cut hand if necessary...ie to hold a lollipop miraculously!
She has willpower that's for sure.
Then the last few days she has been stuttering a bit and keeps saying sorry all the time if she trips or falls etc, even though she hasn't hurt anyone.
We have recently tried forcibly bringing her into the shower as we were desperate to wash her (she was getting a bit smelly). It was horrible and she got very upset, but was fine as soon as it was over. But I felt wrong so I am not keen to do it again as I don't want to cause bigger problems.
She has been a bit funny with having her nappy changed but obviously I had no choice with that one so she seems to have begrudgingly accepted it. She isn't potty trained but was very happily doing a wee in it in the morning and before her bath but has refused since being on bath strike - gets v upset if I even mention it.
We have managed a sponge bath a couple of times but she is not happy with it really.
My main concern is that she is refusing to do something that she actually really loves which makes me sad. Plus I don't want to handle it in a way that could create a longer term issue like a permanent fear of bath time.
She played happily with some water in the garden yesterday so I don't think a fear of water is currently a problem.
I am also annoyed as we have booked center parcs in two weeks mostly for the swimming!
I am a full time SAHM so she is only ever with me and dh or occasionally my parents. So her world is generally very steady and nothing could really have happened that I would not be aware of such as falling in the bath etc.
Sorry this is so long, I appreciate anyone taking the time to read it and would really, really appreciate any words of wisdom.
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Advice please re sensitive two year old - especially re bath time
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SunnyUpNorth · 13/04/2013 16:24
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