Would this upset you?

(39 Posts)
Coffee1Sugar Fri 12-Apr-13 14:56:50

I took my dd 2.10 to a new play group today. She was building a tower which consisted of numbered blocks 1-10. Dd picked up the 6 and was turning it upside down and said "mummy is this a 6 or a 9?". Just I was about to answer, another mum muttered "god can't she tell the difference yet". She was clearly trying to be discreet but I heard, scooped up dd and left. Am I just weak or would that upset anyone else?

MirandaWest Fri 12-Apr-13 14:58:58

I'd have probably ignored her. Would have felt a bit irked but wouldn't have left.

Can't actually remember when children do learn numbers and mine are only 9 and 7 blush.

pictish Fri 12-Apr-13 14:59:38

It wouldn't upset me no. It's such a random thing to do, I'd just give her a hard Paddington bear stare...then quietly leave.

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 15:01:09

Forget it. You will meet a vast variety of people. Some will get up your nose. Some won't. Ignore the ones up your nose.

DiscoDonkey Fri 12-Apr-13 15:02:31

I would have just said "obviously not" and then ignored her. I wouldn't have left tough.

EyeoftheStorm Fri 12-Apr-13 15:02:32

I would have started laughing. I have 3 and none of them would have known a 6 from a 9 at 2.10. I would have thought the other mum was ridiculous and that your DD is rather clever.

lifesobeautiful Fri 12-Apr-13 15:03:27

I think she was being jealous - because it's clever that your 2.10 year old would even ask that question! Forget about it - she was just being bitchy.

Coffee1Sugar Fri 12-Apr-13 15:03:57

Well IMO "is it a 6 or 9" is pretty mature - same shape different angle, if put sideways most adults wouldnt tell a difference.

I was surprised I walked, I'm feeling low at the moment and not strong enough to let it slide.

DiscoDonkey Fri 12-Apr-13 15:03:57

Or you could have said "we've been so focused on her violin skills we've totally slipped on the numeracy"

bishboschone Fri 12-Apr-13 15:04:14

What an absolute bitch, there is no need to say stuff like that.

Ragwort Fri 12-Apr-13 15:06:11

Agree with Eye - surely hardly any children of that age would know the difference (I worked in a pre-school) - are you sure you heard her correctly? I think you were being incredibly over sensitive to actually walk out.

Coffee1Sugar Fri 12-Apr-13 15:07:06

Ragwort - my cousin has just died, yes I was probably over sensitive

Smartieaddict Fri 12-Apr-13 15:08:55

It shouldn't but yes it would probably upset me, what an unkind comment. That said it probably says more about the person making the comment than your DD, who is clearly quite clever. She sounds like a very insecure person if she needs to put down a 2 year old!

Moominsarehippos Fri 12-Apr-13 15:09:20

Sorry about your cousin.

The 9 or 6 thing, I thing was a very good question. For a child to understands that the same figure standing on its head changes it to the other is rather advanced.

Beatrixpotty Fri 12-Apr-13 15:14:49

I don't think it would upset me as it's such a stupid thing to say but I'd just think she was very rude

lljkk Fri 12-Apr-13 15:17:11

What Bp said.

Lilicat1013 Fri 12-Apr-13 15:31:36

I would probably have asked what the hell her problem was.

It wouldn't have upset me, I would just think there is something very wrong with the women who commented (and probably say as much). I don't know why she would think it is OK to comment on a child in that way and why she cares about another child's level of ability.

It seems like a pretty reasonable question to me but even if it hadn't been it isn't her concern.

It is a pity you felt you had to leave but I can understand why you did. Maybe you can plan some sarcastic responses in case it happens again.

seeker Fri 12-Apr-13 15:33:38

So you left a playgroup because of one idiotic woman?

abbyfromoz Fri 12-Apr-13 15:36:32

Omg! What a silly cow! Sorry but i can't imagine my DD (almost 2)!! Being anywhere near that by that age! Your little girl sounds very clever- maybe she was saying it tongue in cheek? If not i don't blame you for leaving- wouldn't want to associate with someone that high and mighty

daytoday Fri 12-Apr-13 15:40:02

I wonder whether she was joking. I think it's amazing your dd did that and wonder whether she was impressed too and said it smiling.

Maybe I'm wrong.

Floggingmolly Fri 12-Apr-13 15:43:59

She was as jealous as a rat, God help her. Keep an eye on her little genius next time you go, should be good for a laugh.

Twentytotwo Fri 12-Apr-13 15:45:40

I'd have laughed at the stupid woman. If you can flip the block it is a 6 and a 9. I appreciate that if you were feeling vulnerable comments like that can be upsetting. I really wouldn't dwell on it too much.

i have to admit I would have said something s I am far too easily offended and since having DD its even worse, specially if about DD...

Def she was jealous... maybe next time ask the lady if she would be kind enough to teach the whole group mnumbers...

What kind of a cow comemnts?!?!!?!

Did you liek the group apart from that?

Very sorry about your cousin

lisad123everybodydancenow Fri 12-Apr-13 15:47:05

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garlicyoni Fri 12-Apr-13 15:48:13

I can't always tell confused I'm 58!

You were being oversensitive, yes. I'm sorry to hear about your cousin.

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