6 month old hates me

(64 Posts)
joanna1985 Wed 27-Mar-13 20:45:47

Im a first time mum and My 6 month old is teething and crys with me like he crys with no one else. When its just us two in the house unless i entertain him all of the time he gets irritable then he wont let me put him down. Wants to be held all the time and screams when i put him down. It's making me think i don't give him enough good attention but sometimes i just want to have a minute to read a paper or make a cup of tea. Does that make me a crap mummy? Honestly? Then when i bring him to my mums hes all smiles and laughs and she says i dont know how lucky i am to have a good baby. Today he screamed cos i put him in the pram and walked for 20 mons. I couldnt lift him out cos it was snowing and he got in such a state and was sobbing, my mum was so shocked said dont let him cry like that. Its making me think he must just hate me sad

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Thu 28-Mar-13 15:51:55

Iggly - yes, I was hoping to be enlightened but the poster who knows all about this behavioural stuff doesn't want to elaborate.

joanna1985 Thu 28-Mar-13 17:52:48

So my mum took him last night and he was out and about all day today and hes loads better and i feel better to. Think i needed a wee break tbh. Being cooped up in the house together this week with the snow has probably bothered him as much as me! Thanks for all your replies. much appreciated smile

Iggly Thu 28-Mar-13 19:15:05

There's a surprise Yellow grin maybe they were using reverse physicology tactics on newborns or summat.

Glad you're feeling better OP. you really need to get out of the house when you've got a baby!!!! Otherwise you go md.

CognitiveOverload Thu 28-Mar-13 21:17:11

Nothing like a bit of open mindedness. I pointed you in the direction. If you are not interested, just say so. Don't try to put the blame on me. I'm sure you are capable or research. smile oh mn is full of enlightenment.

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Thu 28-Mar-13 22:20:04

I am open minded, would happily read more, as you have stated there is loads of research surely you could just share it?

CognitiveOverload Thu 28-Mar-13 22:48:30

Or you could just Google? Its not a new fangled thing. Been around for a while and like I said its evidence based and therefore used widely by professionals.

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Thu 28-Mar-13 22:56:10

But presumably you mean the articles that inform your psychological work?

CognitiveOverload Thu 28-Mar-13 23:01:21

Yes. But you have to be a member to access them. Here is a free resource. Dont shoot the messenger. Its accepted knowledge. http://synapse.org.au/get-the-facts/abc-approach-to-behaviour-fact-sheet.aspx

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Thu 28-Mar-13 23:17:10

I read the article but I still do not understand how it is relevant to a 6mo baby with toothache.

Iggly Fri 29-Mar-13 11:36:10

Agree Yellow. Not sure why you wouldn't give a 6 month old baby a cuddle on the premise that they're manipulating you into doing so.

When do babies get a sense of "self"? I thought that came at 9 months +?

joanna1985 Sat 30-Mar-13 09:00:59

Los 1st two teeth have appeared think that must have been making him worse! He seems in much better form

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Sat 30-Mar-13 10:21:40

Glad he's feeling happier!

JiltedJohnsJulie Sat 30-Mar-13 14:35:09

That's such good news. The discomfort must have affected his behaviour, perhaps a lesson learned for next time? smile

mummy2lola Sat 30-Mar-13 15:27:07

Know ow you feel. My dd (5mo) is teething and has become clingy for me, as well as grumpy, but smiley for others- makes me feel exactly like you described. X

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