Come tell me dd isn't really behind for her age...

(111 Posts)
BeaWheesht Fri 01-Mar-13 17:32:19

Tool dd to doctors today as she's been unwell - when nurse listened to her tummy she was aghast to see she's still in nappies and told dd she was far too old to be wearing nappies.

Dd is 2y5m - I had planned on potty training at the start of January but we've all been ill with various things since then.

So, tell me, is she really 'far too old' ????

piprabbit Sun 03-Mar-13 22:13:12

My DD was potty trained by 18 months. But my DS chose to continue using nappies until he was 3.5yo (definitely his choice - he told me he would stop using nappies when he went into Nursery class and he did).

At best parents can gently persuade, but you can't work against your child's natural preferences, development and personality.

5madthings Sun 03-Mar-13 22:15:00

Yes its pressure and also temperature change, partly reflex. A baby hadn't got control if their muscles to 'hold' in a wee. So if theory need to we they wee when their bladder us full and as little babies that is frequently, apparently the amount if urine a bladder can hokdis related to their age/size.

There is lots about iuf you Google.

Yes you can do deli inaction communication with younger babies but that is nit training in the sense if them being award of needing to go, being able to'hold' it and then wee/poo when they choose to in a potty/toilet.

5madthings Sun 03-Mar-13 22:15:42

Ha ha at deli inaction?! Bloody auto correct! Elimination communication it should say!

Kiwiinkits Sun 03-Mar-13 22:29:34

I think poo withholding is one of the 'isshoooes'

Having a toddler deliberately poo in his nappy is just wrong and has potential to become a bit degrading, I think. Why not teach him how to do it properly, like using a fork.

MajaBiene Sun 03-Mar-13 22:33:16

Kiwi, I think you are right about the "degrading" thing. I find it quite degrading for the child when you are changing the nappy of a walking, talking almost 3 year old. IME (in nursery) children who are trained nearer 2 do it with no problems, those that are 3+ seem to have a lot more issues with withholding, not wanting to use the toilets, only pooing in nappies, getting stressed by the whole thing. That's just my experience though, I'm sure some kids do train in a few days at 3+.

BeaWheesht Sun 03-Mar-13 22:50:37

<backs away slowly>

gets a bit depressed that my most successful thread to date is about toddler wee and poo and think it might say something about my life

MiaSparrow Sun 03-Mar-13 23:19:16

How silly! Of course not. Maybe the nurse was saying it to your DD in a flippant way to try and encourage her to be a 'big girl', like people do. She probably remarks on the over one's for example still on bottles... 'Oh you're not a baby are you?' Could it have been that kind of thing?

DD's just two and she may well be ready but I'm jolly well leaving it to the summer.

Have been talking to my old mum about it and she says I started at 2.6ish and it only took a week so I'm hoping my DD will be the same.

I do think some older people remember things differently when it comes to infants' development (although that's no excuse for a nurse!)

akaemmafrost Sun 03-Mar-13 23:24:40

It appears from this thread though that MOST kids who train at 3+ do it in a couple of days though confused. I don't think I have read a single post about issues arising from "late" toilet training. You'd think on such a thread, there would be a few of those kinds of stories wouldn't you?

Startail Sun 03-Mar-13 23:27:03

Both mine were two and nine months, I know exactly because they had to be for preschool (12 and 15, they now have to be more relaxed).

We were in the USA in other people's cars up to the day DD1 started preschool, so she'd had pull ups on.

I did a lot of finger crossing the first few weeks.

MidnightMasquerader Mon 04-Mar-13 02:32:21

The idea that it's 'degrading' is pure projection, because adults imaginging themselves in the scenario would feel 'degraded'. Adults have had a lifetime of toileting being something you do in private behind closed doors, and have learnt that poo and wee is not nice.

Children still in nappies - as we all know full well - couldn't give too hoots about it. They don't feel 'degraded' as they know no different.

Amusing what lengths some posters on this thread are now going to, to make people fee bad. Why, I have to wonder?!

ChristmasJubilee Mon 04-Mar-13 15:35:59

Ds 1 was "trained" at just over 2. Well except for a couple of poo's in the garden and one on the doorstep (witnessed by the posh neighbours). Oh yes, he had a few wee accidents on people's settees, in cars, every time he dozed off and in the supermarket at most visits. So not really trained at all but so many people said he shouldn't be in nappies that I believed them.

I left ds 2 in nappies a bit longer and he did it himself at 2.6, day and night, no accidents.

Ds3 - we had several attempts before his 3rd birthday with no success. Both myself and my very experienced childminder knew he wasn't ready. He started nursery at 3.2 yrs in pull ups and was clean and dry a month later. He is still in pull ups at night at 6.8 yrs. They are all different.

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