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Tool dd to doctors today as she's been unwell - when nurse listened to her tummy she was aghast to see she's still in nappies and told dd she was far too old to be wearing nappies.

Dd is 2y5m - I had planned on potty training at the start of January but we've all been ill with various things since then.

So, tell me, is she really 'far too old' ????

My DD was gone 3yo by the time she was potty trained. Just wasn't ready earlier (we tried).

Ignore!

No, 2.5 is probably about average to start training - though leaving it til 3+ is getting more common now too!

So long as she is out of nappies by the time she starts nursery class (term after 3rd birthday) then I'd say she's quite normal.

Was the nurse quite a bit older? Remember when we were children we'd be potty trained at 2, if not before.

YY to the generational thing.

It's also a cultural thing, my friend is from India and over there they potty-train very early.

Yes older nurse.

Ds is 6 now but was 2y6m I think when he potty trained.

No of course she isn't. And neither will she be if she goes to nursery in nappies, what an odd comment. They're all different. DS is 3.5 and not ready yet. Noone is worried about him and nursery are happy to change his nappy.

No way, ds is 2.10 and I'm only starting to get him familiar with the potty, will properly train him when the warmer weather comes in! HV told me as long as he is trained by September for starting pre school it's not a problem!

My nephew was 3 before he was toilet trained, DD1 was 2 and a bit, my niece is 2.5 and still in nappies. I'm waiting for DD2 (just turned 2) to be ready.

I wouldn't worry - that nurse was rude.

A child without any additional needs who starts nursery school still in nappies would certainly be the minority. Most nursery classes/pre-schools prefer and encourage children to be trained before they start.

DS1 is 2.5m, I'm not planning to train him til at least april/may.

MajaBiene - surely that depends when they start "nursery school"?! DS had his 3rd birthday last week and I am in no rush - he doesn't tell me when he's done a poo so he's hardly going to be able to tell me he needs a wee.

Usually they start nursery school the term after their 3rd birthday - so yes, the majority of children with no additional needs should be trained by then!

None of mine were potty trained until a few weeks before their 3rd birthday.
<shrug>

Potty train when you and your child are ready not before otherwise all you get is tons of wet pants and in this weather that's no fun.Also in my opinion it's better to leave it til warmer weather so they can wear less to make it easier to go.

three and a half and still in nappies????? Blimey I would be very worried.

Your DD is normal, OP. Don't let it worry you another second.

The nurse needs to mind her own business. 2 out of my 3 were potty trained after 3yrs old.

ignore. so sad you were told this by a suppossed helth professional,madness

No she's not. It's actually become far more acceptable to have 3 yo's (and over) in nappies than it would have been say 10 years ago.
I think the main reason for a lot of the pressure was the fact that pre schools / nurserys would refuse to accept untrained children; they're not allowed to do that now.

Pure laziness not to toilet train a 3.5 year old - not nice for nursery staff to have to deal with and horrible for the child too. Some parents do seem to hope their children will just train themselves if left for long enough.

Mine was 3 before we started. (Nursery tried earlier with no success!)

Didn't do both of mine until just after their 3 b'day and they were both dry within a week. Seemed much less stress than friends that had done it closer to 2.
Both mine went to nursery in nappies.
Just do it when it's good for both of you and ignore anyone who tells you otherwise

Thanks for calling me lazy maja

When I say DS is not ready, I mean he's not ready. Frankly I could do without washing the nappies, but I prefer that to washing the floor.

2.5 I would be looking at starting.I would definitely expect potty training to have been done by 3.5 unless any additional needs.

It depends on the child.

DD1 (SN) dry by day at 2.6, still in nappies at night at 7.
DD2 dry by day at 2.10, dry by night at 3.8
DD3 dry by day and night at 2.0