Do your children cry when they wake up?

(38 Posts)
LittleMilla Mon 18-Feb-13 20:41:11

Ds is 21 mo and nearly always cries when he wakes up. It's always worse when he wakes up too early and won't go back to sleep. Less so when he gets to 7am like this morning tho.

Had sis in law to stay his weekend who has commented how "sad" he seems. Granted, they had to listen to him at 5.30am having a massive whinge. But as much as I hate her commenting, I'm wondering if we've become desensitised??

Is this normal?

I don't know what it's like when they get to 21mo, but 8 mo ds only cries if he is woken from a deep sleep, or if he is teething, he can wake screaming in pain occasionally when teeth are bad, and we co sleep so it's not as if he needs food or comfort as he has those on tap!

Is he getting woken by something or waking naturally? 5.30 sounds quite early to be a natural waking as it gets light later than that I think?

dikkertjedap Mon 18-Feb-13 20:56:08

No, but we co-slept. First thing when dd opened her eyes she used to give me this massive smile and then she would want a cuddle.

Titchyboomboom Mon 18-Feb-13 20:57:17

Until dd was 2 she cried every time she woke! I thought they all did it until a friend asked how I know when dd is awake.. Errrr she screams, doesn't yours? Apparently not!

stargirl1701 Mon 18-Feb-13 20:59:22

Yes, DD screams upon wakening from every nap. She doesn't cry in the morning though. She has silent reflux and I assume she's in less pain because she hasn't eaten overnight.

Notquiteinsane Mon 18-Feb-13 20:59:36

My DD is 2 and has ALWAYS cried as soon as she has woken from any sleep, nap, full night, middle of the night, whatever! She does now have a little cry and then stop and as long as she has had enough sleep will just chill out until I get her (well, actually having moved her into a bed she now trots out) But I have had people comment on it too...have never found a reason for it, is just her i suppose! Interesting that others do it too! smile I have always put it down to the fact that, despite not wanting to miss out on anything, she really likes her sleep and takes a while to accept that she is awake.

DS always cried on waking - he's a lovely 12 yr old now although slightly miserable...
I don't know what it is - I wonder if it's a personality thing...

moogalicious Mon 18-Feb-13 21:01:14

Yes ds used to cry when he woke - he was also an early riser but don't know if that's related. If your ds is a light sleeper (as mine was/is) do you think something is waking him eg heating coming on, curtains not thick enough.

He grew out of the crying (but is still an early riser hmm)

PoppyWearer Mon 18-Feb-13 21:02:05

I'd say about 50/50, whether I co-sleep or not.

But then 18mo DC2 does have some issues with trapped wind (am thinking a food allergy of some kind, he is too old for colic) and that does wake him up at times, then he whinges/cries until he can "relieve" himself (sorry TMI!).

My ds cries at waking if he is still tired (like this morning and afternoon - urgh!) but if he has slept well he wakes up and has a chat with his bear smile

moogalicious Mon 18-Feb-13 21:02:40

^^ yes ds is 8 and is still really moany when tired!

LittleMilla Mon 18-Feb-13 21:06:46

Thx for replies, reassuring to know he's not alone. He went through a teenage toddler phase recently where he didn't wake until 7.45? He would wake up and lie in bed chattering until we went in. Then proudly tell me he'd "done poo".

The waking is random which makes me think it's more over tiredness. Generally coincides with him going to bed too late.

Crying hadnt bothered me much but her comments irked me.

LittleMilla Mon 18-Feb-13 21:08:06

Sorry, should say early waking

ceebeegeebies Mon 18-Feb-13 21:08:06

Neither of mine did - not even when they were newborns. When they wanted a feed in the middle of the night , they would wake us up by fidgeting and wriggling, not through crying.

When DS1 moved to his own room, we would know he was awake as he had a cot toy that played music which he could activate himself...so we were often woken up by that grin

Ds2 never did, and never has, woken up in the middle of the night since he was 10 weeks old grin

moogalicious Mon 18-Feb-13 21:08:58

Ignore! My Fil said it wasn't normal to cry on waking. Well, it was normal for my ds!

CitizenOscar Mon 18-Feb-13 21:35:24

Mine used to every time. Now (20 months) only if he's lonely or upset. Mostly I hear him chatting to himself. But that is quite recent, before that he always cried on waking.

DS1 used to coo and talk to himself for a bit DS2 (12M) always wakes up and cries/screams. No matter what the time, or where he sleeps.

It makes me so sad, I wish he could be happy when he wakes!

MrsDonnieDarko Mon 18-Feb-13 21:45:57

Normal for a lot of kids and it certainly doesn't mean he's 'sad'. Both my boys have done this. DS1 grew out of it when he was about 2 and a half but even then would wake after a nap and be 'touchy' and a bit tempremental til he was about 3. Even now at 5, he doesn't wake up crying or moaning but I have never know him wake up with a smile! DS2 is 1 year old and still going strong with the crying on waking up! It's normal for us. They do grow out of it!! Have you tried offering a snack to them on waking up. Sometimes their blood sugar gets a bit low and they need a bit or perking up when they wake up. Sometimes a digestive biscuit and some grapes would snap my DS1 right out of it, other times it would frustrate him more and he just needed a few minutes cry. DS2 is pretty much always distracted by a snack!

LittleMilla Mon 18-Feb-13 21:50:54

Everyone that knows me can attest that I am normally in a pretty foul mood unless I've had a good 8 hour sleep (it's been a looooong 21 months wink). Maybe he just follows me?

I like the snack suggestion. He nearly always asks for cereal as soon as he's up...which we tend to try and hold off until 7am for on early days a la ferber's book. He was a prolific early waker and it was only when we read this book that we had the <face slap> moment that we'd conditioned him to need milk/food at 5am by giving it to him every day!

ChairmanWow Tue 19-Feb-13 07:47:54

Everyone has to have an opinion, don't they. Babies and toddlers cry because they are trying to communicate something not because they're sad or depressed!

My 23 m o goes through phases of this too. He's in one at the moment. We have given him milk on waking in the past but this encourages him to wake earlier and earlier - last summer it ended up at 4.30. Eeek! Now he gets his milk at 6, toys in the cot and up at 7. Tends to keep a lid on it.

Sunshine200 Tue 19-Feb-13 10:11:54

My 17 month dd has always cried on waking. She cries until I take her out of her cot. I thought it was normal until friends mentioned about theirs chatting. If she wakes in the night she also cries out.

rrreow Tue 19-Feb-13 13:56:17

21mo DS usually cries upon waking, especially if it's in the middle of the night. Occasionally he will babble to himself (usually if it's morning or after his nap).

mmmerangue Tue 19-Feb-13 14:00:32

DS cries 90% of the time (upon waking). 3 months ago when he was 21 MO, it was 99.9% of the time.

Twattergy Tue 19-Feb-13 16:38:14

Ds 16 mo has always cried on waking...don't think he is sad, just a bit groggy and wants a cuddle/attention. Looks like he'll grow out of it from what others have posted. I'd be really annoyed if someone implied it was wrong in some way! It's just what he does. although its annoying coz it means I can't leave him when he wakes up early

LittleMilla Tue 19-Feb-13 18:01:24

Sister in law has a 9 week old that isn't yet allowed to whimper without boob being shoved in her mouth. So she's obviously an expert now wink.

Very reassuring to hear that DS seems to be very normal and we're not evil parents.

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