I need some perspective, and some common sense replies from other parents who also have spirited toddlers, because I am getting very close to having some sort of situation where I do something I regret. Someone, please tell me this is all normal and that it gets easier.
My son is 2.5. Never been a great sleeper, only now just going through the night and wakes very, very early (between 4.15 and 5.15am most days), and still has a day time nap. Lots of work and help from a sleep specialist to get him to this point, so that?s a positive.
But he seems to be so much harder work than other children in terms of personality. He is defiant to the point of insanity, and doesn?t seem to give a monkey ?s uncle about any kind of threat or discipline I use. I follow every rule you?re supposed to ? calm, consistent, carrying out said threat. He just ramps it up, hits me, throws things, runs off (and I put the reins on if he does that, too dangerous to have him walking anywhere otherwise) and generally creates chaos and carnage.
He is with a child-minder 3 days a week, and is totally calm with her. He?s a great eater and has no problem concentrating. He?s a very active child, lots of fresh air and walks along the beach etc.
What worries me is that I?m frequently having moments when I am starting to shout at him. He woke at 4.15am yesterday, and refused to sleep on the drive home from soft play. By this point we had both been awake for 8 hours and I was desperate for a break. But he just kept taking his arms out of the car seat and messing about. I pulled over and screamed, literally screamed in his face that I hated him and that I didn?t want to be his Mummy anymore.
Can someone please tell me that this is normal, that we all blow up occasionally and suggest ways of me controlling my anger in these situations? I often have to lock myself in the kitchen and cry because he?s being so naughty and not listening (or just doing the opposite of what I ask him to do) that if I don?t remove myself I will shout again. I?m also starting to use the F word around him when he kicks off, which I am deeply ashamed of. He?s a bright child but I get so wound up when he just destroys toys/days out/the house that I feel he must hate me.
I jokingly tell people that I wish I hadn?t had him. But I?m not joking. I don?t enjoy being a parent and if I could undo it all, I would. Am I out of control?
Sorry to drone on, but any advice would be great. Thanks.
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SharkSkinThing · 13/02/2013 09:18
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