Sorry, this is a bit long..
DS is 3.3 and for the longest time would not even step inside the door of a toddler group, so we stopped trying to take him. He is an only child who is very stubborn and by far prefers to stay at home and play with me and DH (we both work at home, although I only do when he's asleep - otherwise I take care of him), to doing very much anything out of the house at all. It can be very frustrating, but we still take him out pretty much every day. Most of the time he enjoys it after a while, although on some days he seems to be too tired to (no reason for him to be tired most of the time, so it can be a bit annoying). I think he is an introvert, and although he loves to interact with other people he will only do it when he feels like it and on his terms. Otherwise he will ask to go home or ask me to tell the person to go away. Repeatedly. And then get very angry/upset (hard to tell the difference with him.. maybe it's anger first and then upset).
We are aware that he needs to be "socialised" since it won't be very long until he starts school and he will probably get a place in the school's pre-school before that, as well, so we have recently started to make a bit more of an effort to meet with other people. We do not have many friends here, so only have one mother with one boy his age to meet up with for play dates once a week, which DS now mostly enjoys. I also take him to a dance class, which he loves, although the intensity of his joy can overwhelm him at times, so sometimes he will need to sit on the side of the room with me for a while before joining in again (during this time he usually says that he want's to leave as he's "too tired").
After hitting 3, DH has been taking DS to the toddler group on one morning of the week. To our surprise he seemed to like it, although would not join in with the singing in the end (would not even sit in the circle). However, for the last two weeks he has refused to stay for longer than a few minutes after DH has paid for the privilege. First time was because another child was playing with a toy DS wanted, and he had a complete melt down. The usual techniques of implementing taking turns or distractions (including offering other toys) did not work and DH had to take him home. On the second occasion, someone ran into DS and knocked him over soon after they'd come in. Again he just wanted to leave. As a last resort, DH gave DS his phone to play with until he calmed down, but DS would not get off the phone or play any more, so, again, they left.
My question is, do we try to persevere with the toddler group?
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Should we persevere with toddler group for 3 year old
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ToysRLuv · 24/01/2013 14:29
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