Hello,
I'm not very good at asking for help, and I'm not a mum so I hope I don't upset anyone by posting.
Sons profile is: he's very happy all the time, has a lot of energy, healthy, popular, he's very polite but not in a shy way, he is confident for his age. He has a sharp mind and it's impossible to put one past him. He talks back to his mum and myself sometimes in a cheeky way but his behaviour at home is generally good. He has no violence in him and he respects his grandparents etc. Overall, he is a good natured person.
The "problem" started basically in primary 1. All the way through school, we have received reports of his unacceptable behaviour which can be summed up as:
- Not paying attention and following instructions
- Talking to others, meaning he does not complete his work and he disrupts others from completing theirs
- Does not complete his work to an acceptable level due to inattention
Some years back during a parents evening, we decided that the teacher would start sending small daily reports home. These have been consistently poor and on the latest parents night, his current teacher said she is very worried about him as this has got no better throughout primary school and it's likely to impact his education increasingly as the years go on (esp. into high school).
He has so far kept up with all the class work, just, but some of the work we've seen on parents night has been very poor indeed. Like they've been asked to write a story based on a picture, and he has managed 1 poorly written sentence in a whole hour.
We have tried everything we can to effect this behaviour from home. For example, when he has a bad report for the day, he gets 10mins off his bedtime, good he gets 10mins added (and this accumulates each month). Bad report means extra homework, no TV and no xbox, good means extra story at bedtime.
As soon as he gets to school though, he forgets this whole system, he doesn't think about the consequences, it doesn't cross his mind. No matter what we do from here, once he gets to school it's talking talking talking and all the work he should be doing and any consequences he may face at home with a bad report are completely out of his mind.
I apologise that this is long, I have attempted to only include relevant information.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.