12 month old waking in night hysterical

(8 Posts)
Thoughtweweredoingok Mon 21-Jan-13 01:30:52

Any ideas please!?
My dd has just turned one but this has been going on for a while now. She goes to sleep fine on her own but is waking in the night screaming and won't calm till we cuddle her to sleep. Then she wakes the second we put her back in her cot again. I went back to work a 3 months ago and before that she rarely woke and we could let her cry it out when we knew nothing else was wrong. But then i went back to work and we decided on a 'nip it in the bud' approach which seemed to work . Now she wakes screaming and can't be pacified unless you pick her up. She calms pretty quickly then screams as soon as you put her down again. It got to the point where we had to let her fall asleep in arms then put he down with everything crossed she wouldn't notice (that rarely happened). She has just been ill so we really didn't want to let her cry at all bit now she is better its just ridiculous. I've been up for an hour going in every 3-5 minutes and she won't stop screaming. Am trying to not pick her up or talk much. Any ideas?

CanIHaveAPetGiraffePlease Mon 21-Jan-13 01:40:31

No idea but my previously sleeping through 13 month old baby is doing the same :-( cant seem to get her back to sleep.

MoelFammau Mon 21-Jan-13 01:47:54

Night terrors?

DD went through a horrible time with it from 13mo-18mo. She's now a lot better at 20mo, though last night was pretty awful....

If it's night terrors, turn the light on, snap them out of it. Give them a drink, talk loudly to them and then cuddle back to sleep.

When you put her down put her on her front, I find my 11 month old wakes up if I put her on her back as she feels like she is falling backwards as I lower her into cot. Hug and roll might work too, you have to hug them to you until they are on the mattress sleeping soundly, then slowly roll yourself away and remove your arm.

When you take her out of the cot you could try either putting a hot water bottle in there to keep it warm or put a fleece blanket under her so the mattress is not so cold on the return.

It sounds like night terrors with separation anxiety thrown in, which is normal if you have just had a scary nightmare and want your parent's comfort. My eldest has night terrors, she is 3.5 and I have to cuddle her too and sometimes even bring her into our bed until she is in a deeper sleep and then transfer.

Thoughtweweredoingok Mon 21-Jan-13 02:13:48

Hadn't thought about night terrors but she is wide awake when she is crying rather than dreaming? She is still going strong and now hubby taken over because I'm in tears also. We have tried putting her down on her front/side but unfortunately that doesn't really work. Just terrified I'm being neglectful because she is crying so much but then concerned she us just mucking us about for cuddles and we can't keep getting up every few hours, I'm exhausted & so is my dd

My dd will have her eyes wide open during a night terror and appear to be awake, but she is still in the dream.

If you have been trying for an hour and she is still screaming I would take her out and cuddle her, she will have worked herself into such a state by now that she won't be able to self settle.

MoelFammau Mon 21-Jan-13 02:37:14

DD seemed wide awake too but really wasn't. She'd cling to me screaming but sometimes would flail and fight to get away. I found that properly waking her up then soothing her back to sleep helped. Night terrors usually kick in at the same time each night and you can stop them by half waking the baby about 20 mins before they normally kick off. It breaks the sleep cycle and reboots the brain.

Thoughtweweredoingok Mon 21-Jan-13 07:46:27

Thanks everyone. Couldn't bear awfulness anymore and hugged her to sleep in the end but then she didn't wake up again, prob because she was so exhausted. Absolutely not going to let her go as long tonight and going to try a few tricks, hubby noticed having a muslin by her face helped because we bunny had gotten soaked with crying sad

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