Sorry, this may end up a bit lengthy... The background: ds (who is now 4yo) had severe reflux as a baby, to the extent that no medication worked and he got such bad inflammation that he refused to drink milk - he had 10 hospital admissions before he was one and had tube feeds on occasion. He only had to see a bottle of white liquid and he would start screaming. He learned that feeding = pain, so better to starve himself. That obviously made weaning difficult too, and he eventually started to eat some solids at 15 months. Prior to that I did two finger-food meals a day for 5 months before he started to swallow anything - I had to think of it as 'food play' rather than attempted meals, or I would have lost the will to live.
He is now 4, and in many ways it is wonderful that he even eats, when compared with how it used to be. But his diet is awful, and I am desperate to try to improve it somehow. He won't eat any fruit or veg - apart from two flavours of shop-bought baby fruit puree jars. It has to be those two flavours, and eaten from the jar. I make sure he has two of those a day, just to get some fruit into him. He has no veg in his diet whatsoever apart from potato and carrot waffles, which have a few miniscule orange specks in. He eats: yoghurt (has to be Munch Bunch, strawberry and vanilla or raspberry), Nutella on toast or sandwiches, sausages, chicken nuggets, chips, burger, crisps, biscuits, bread sticks. He won't eat dips, or toast without Nutella on it.
I have tried cooking with him, to see if he'll be more likely to try new things - we made toad-in-the-hole and he ate the sausages and a tiny bit of batter. It is hard to find the time when I also have 12 week old dd and it is very demoralising to make homemade food that doesn't get eaten - dh works late so isn't home for ds's dinnertime. If I put peas on his plate he'll get upset and ask me to take them off. He won't touch the fruit and veg they offer at school. I've encouraged him to try licking things, and then give him a sticker if he licks say a piece of nectarine.
He still has a bottle of formula milk morning and night just to try to get some vitamins into him, and he has vitamin supplements. He just won't try anything new. He is currently on iron medicine as his fingernails are all brittle and splitting, likely due to iron deficiency.
I just wondered if there were any other mums out there with nightmare eaters like this, and how you approached it? Please don't suggest seeing GP or health visitor as I am a GP and we have tried everything down that route, including Sure Start who came out to do messy play with food when ds was younger. Just wondering if anyone has any similar experiences of their own? I'm desperate... Thank you for reading.
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mummy2benji · 20/01/2013 18:47
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