DS2 has Aspergers and ADHD and the parenting techniques that worked on our other three just didn't work with him. We have had the most success with 1-2-3 Magic. I also went on a course called 'Managing behaviour in children with additional needs' which was very helpful.
We're waiting for our 4 year old DS to be assessed for behavioural problems. We're strongly of the opinion that he has Oppositional Defiant Disorder. I've read a book about coping with defiant children and am very clear on the message that standard parenting techniques (eg. timeout) don't work for defiant children. However, I'm just not clear what does! Does anyone have any experience / advice to offer on coping with hitting / spitting / biting etc. which really are beyond the level of calm negotiation and compromise. Frankly, I can?t stand the physical abuse any longer.